Positive stories after recurrent miscarriages please

[Kittyb22]

Hi Everyone, I've just found out I'm pregnant again having had 2 miscarriages and a chemical pregnancy over the last 5 months (having tried to conceive for 2 years). I hate to admit it but i feel too scared to truly feel happy/hopeful and am driving myself mad checking whether I'm bleeding or not. I have a scan next Wednesday (6w) at the EPU and am just focused on the hope that there will be something viable for them to see.. and then hopefully they'll support my pregnancy if I was to start bleeding. It's so hard as I feel so alone & feel awkward talking to my partner about how I'm feeling as he just tells me to "stop worrying". This would be my first child.. I am 41, soon to be 42 and would love to hear some positive rainbow baby stories please, especially from ladies of a similar age to me! Thanks everyone, sending baby dust to everyone who would like some 😊

I’m so sorry about what you’ve been through and what you’re going through.

I had my first child at 35, after two miscarriages. I could not relax the whole pregnancy through, every scan was literally horrible as I expected the worst every time. My partner also kept telling me to stop worrying, which was very kind of him of course but he obviously didn’t understand how I was feeling.

I did have an amazing and healthy baby girl in the end!

I am now pregnant again, after yet another miscarriage. Strangely I feel more relaxed this time, I don’t know why. Of course I am worried and I still dread the scans but it’s not as bad now. And everything so far is looking great! I am now 14 weeks.

I just wanted to share to let you know you’re not alone and I totally get it. I wish you all the luck in the world x

Hi,
I just wanted to say you're not allowed. I am 5 weeks pregnant after 3 miscarriages. Also constantly checking for bleeding. My breasts are really sore and I have heart burn. I'm taking 150mg asprin and I have progesterone cream, I don't know if either will help but needed to do something!
When did you speak to your midwife? And did you have to request a scan? I'm too scared to even book in with them as I feel I'm tempting fate :(

Alone!**

I’m 17 weeks pregnant at 38 after 3 miscarriages and quite a few chemical pregnancies, plus a failed ivf (terrible eggs). The body, the uterus can do amazing things, as the specialist told me, and it is a cliche but true that each pregnancy is different - you are not doomed to miscarry this pregnancy. I was in terror and sometimes denial this time around until about 11 weeks when I felt an inexplicable calmness and that things would be okay. Sadly, I don’t think there’s much to do except get through the uncertain times. But you will get through. Sending love and strength x

I'm 42. I had two miscarriages in previous relationships, thought motherhood might not happen, but then life fell into place and I'm writing this holding my 1 year old as she goes to sleep

Thankyou so much for all your lovely replies, it's so nice to see your comments popping up and especially see so many of you pregnant right now too x

@SweedeyTodd It's so reassuring to hear about your lovely wee girl especially after your miscarriages and massive congratulations that you're expecting again. How wonderful that you feel slightly more relaxed this time around and that everything is looking great at 14 weeks. Wishing you all the very best x

@HitsAndMrs I related to every word you wrote! I am 5 weeks too and my breasts are crazy sore, and had heartburn for my first time ever this evening!.. I'm grateful for my pregnancy symptoms, reassured by them as I know they can stop suddenly. Did a midwife/Dr recommend you take Aspirin & Progesterone? I haven't heard about the Aspirin before but had begged to be given Progesterone as soon as I found out I was pregnant. Apparently the protocol here (Scotland) is that they would only give it to me if i started bleeding (why wait?!) and then only if there is something to be seen on the 6 week scan (hence my desperation to get to 6 weeks!). I feel exactly the same as you, I really want to feel as though I'm doing something different this time. My first appointment with my Midwife isn't until the end of the month so I'm not under the care of anyone and feel a bit on my own with this! I called the EPU as soon as I found out I was pregnant & they booked me in for the 6 week scan (this coming Wed). Totally understand why you feel as if you might be tempting fate by booking in with them.. I was the same.. just you do what feels right for you. I send you all the luck in the world x

@orangehour Oh wow congratulations with being 17 weeks.. I love what your specialist told you, the body is an amazing thing isn't it?!.. I truly believe that. How wonderful to have that inexplicable calmness and inner knowing.. Hopefully I'll follow in your footsteps and feel the same down the track too. Sending you lots of love and strength too x

@Glendaruel Your message made me smile.. and a little teary (hormones I guess!).. especially as we're such similar ages. How lovely that you wrote this message cuddling your wee daughter to sleep... you've given me hope, Thankyou. x

2 MCs and I’m currently 39 weeks…push to get some progesterone till 12 weeks I swear that kept me pregnant this time. Best of luck xxx

I have been prescribed anything to be honest, I've chosen to try them both myself through researching them and they seem to have positive outcomes so worth a try!
I asked my GP for progesterone pessaries but he couldn't prescribe then, he said it has to be a consultant or specialist so I've ordered the cream online. It obviously isn't as strong though.
I've got pregnacare max, 5mg folic acid from the GP, I've got vitamin C tablets! Trying everything! Hope it all goes okay for you.

I ended up paying private for progesterone but appreciate not everyone can do that. The slightest bit of trouble you keep fighting your corner with NHS/early pregnancy Unit

@Gamechanger2019 I would happily pay privately for the Progesterone, I really wanted to have it as soon as I found out I was pregnant again. How do you go about getting hold of it privately? Also, is it a pill, suppository or cream? Is it just called Progesterone or has it another name? Sorry for all the questions. Totally delighted for you at 39 weeks, wishing you all the best x

@HitsAndMrs Brilliant that you've been so proactive. I've been looking for Progesterone online but can't seem to find it available to buy anywhere.. can I ask what is the name of the cream you've got? x

@Kittyb22 I found a private fertility consultant/dr and paid for a consultation then also private prescriptions. Progesterone is suppositories that you take daily - not the nicest experience but needs must. It probably cost in total about £400

I had a chemical pregnancy and 2 miscarriages (one at 8 weeks and the second at 7weeks) last year. My GP wouldn't do anything as the standard procedure is 3 miscarriages then they will investigate (I'm also in Scotland). They didn't take my chemical as a "proper" miscarriage so didn't help me. I researched aspirin and started taking 150mg once the bleeding from the 2nd MC stopped. I fell pregnant on the cycle immediately after and am now 28 weeks with a healthy pregnancy. I fully believe the aspirin has benefitted me. I've obviously told GP and midwife that I took it of my accord and they have been absolutely fine with that decision.
Hope everything goes well with your scan

Hello. I have a positive story. First baby born just before I turned 39. I had a mc 2 weeks before I turned 40. I then had another mc 7 months later.

12 months almost exactly after my last mc I delivered a wonder baby boy.

I found this last pregnancy so hard. We literally told no one except who could see I was pregnant. Being during covid that was actually quite easy. For me - I felt I couldn't begin to believe the pregnancy would be healthy for a long time. It's also quite lonely as there aren't really anyone to share this with.

I had a good midwife who was sympathetic but even agreed there was little she could do until we got past 20 weeks and the first 20 weeks are the worst part for anxiety.

But we got through it and it was worth all the heartbreak along the way. And despite trying not to overly bond in the early weeks - I actually feel I had a very strong bond with my baby.

So sorry for your losses xx

I had two 7-8 week miscarriages in 7 months, and am now 31 weeks with my third pregnancy! Adding up the time I was pregnant and then recovering from not being pregnant anymore I feel like I've had maybe 4-6 weeks of 'normal life' since September 2020! I'm 35 and felt like time was running away from me so we didn't take a break from trying.

After my second mc I was given a prescription for progesterone, and also off my own research decided to start taking low dose aspirin when I found out I was pregnant again. I also had basic blood work done through my GP but all came back as normal. I still think those things helped.

Best of luck in your new pregnancy! Hope you get this one in your arms!

I had a first baby no problem followed by 6 miscarriages in 15 months. After a battle I was prescribed progesterone and I’ve just waved the results of that off to a party with strict instructions to watch her drink!

@Avocadobacardi

I had a first baby no problem followed by 6 miscarriages in 15 months. After a battle I was prescribed progesterone and I’ve just waved the results of that off to a party with strict instructions to watch her drink!

Aw this is lovely!!

Kitty - I just got the cream from Amazon! I'm going to continue the asprin and if I get far enough to book in with the midwife I will discuss it with them.

Thankyou everyone for your lovely replies. I've been a little crampy/stitchy feeling over the past few days but as it hasn't been with heavy bleeding (only very light spotting) I'm choosing to still believe all is well. Wednesday's scan can't come soon enough.. and with it my totally embarrassing begging to be put on Progesterone! Please cross your fingers for me!!

@Gamechanger2019 Thankyou so much for the information - I will definitely go this line for the next time if this pregnancy doesn't unfortunately work out this time x

@Yani85 Congratulations, how wonderful for you.. 28 weeks 😃 I was in exactly the same predicament with you by being told there would be no investigation unless there was a 3rd miscarriage. My GP did contact the clinic for me though and asked if I could have Progesterone for the next time i was pregnant - only to be told no! So absolutely no help whatsoever, Can't help but feel there's a little something wrong with the system here. I have gone out and bought myself some Aspirin and am debating just taking it or wondering if it's too late to start ! Sending you my very best wishes.. really happy for you x

@welshladywhois40 How wonderful to read your story, Thankyou so much for replying. It must have been so very hard and so isolating for you to have to go through all of that during Covid on your own especially when there's so little anyone can do up until the 20 week mark. I'm so happy that it all worked out for you and your wonder baby boy x

@GinnyBee Congratulations!!.. 31 weeks that's wonderful! What a terrific advert for Progesterone and Aspirin.. so, so lovely to read your story.. I wish you all the very best and Thankyou for your good wishes x

@Avocadobacardi ha ha oh what a lovely happy story and another positive outcome for the Progesterone.. i can see I'll need to fight for it too! I do hope your daughter watched her drink!

@HitsAndMrs Great, I shall have a scout around Amazon too then.. I now have some Aspirin but just don't know if I've waited too late to maybe take it. I'll mention it to them on Wednesday and see what they say.

I miscarried twice before dc1 then once again before dc2. Dc are 15 and 17 years of age now.

A very anxious first pregnancy. Not so anxious during the second pregnancy (preoccupied with caring for toddler!).

Hello, I had two miscarriages and a chemical aged 40, then had my daughter aged 41 (nearly 42). I had a bleed early on in the pregnancy with her, so was convinced I was losing her too. I absolutely understand where you are coming from. It takes away all the joy from subsequent pregancies, and it was a horrible stressful time. My daughter is a healthy happy 7 year old now.

I had DS in my mid-30s after 3 MCs and a difficult pregnancy. No diagnosed issues despite multiple tests. I was on progesterone in my third and fourth (successful) pregnancy and on baby aspirin until 36 weeks when I was pregnant with DS. It's so bloody hard. Keep the faith, OP. And seek help for your MH - I wish I had earlier. I'm now waiting for therapy for anxiety and PTSD caused by all this so if you're feeling worse, my advice is don't wait, ask for a referral to perinatal MH asap. Best of luck to you ❤ xx

Hi Everyone, just thought I'd hop on here and say another big Thankyou to you all for your lovely responses. Isn't it nice to a have a board with such positive stories following recurrent miscarriages!

Here's an update for you: my 6 week showed a wee baby with a heartbeat 💗 I had my booking appointment this morning over the phone and all seems to be going well (now just over 7weeks). My pregnancy symptoms seem to be coming and going rather alot which is worrying me.. and I feel I won't feel totally able to breathe until I've had my dating scan at the beginning of May (12w).. still a long way to go but I have my 🤞🏼🙏🏼

Hi @Kittyb22 Thank you for sharing your story. It’s giving me hope after currently suffering my 3rd mc in 18 months. I know it’s been a while, just wondering how you’re getting on? I’m 36 and have been trying for 2 years. Was on progesterone for this pregnancy although still didn’t make it. Hoping the next one will finally be the one for us 🙏 Hope all is well with you ❤️

Hi @OneDay86 , lovely to hear from you. I’m so sorry to read what you’ve gone and are going through, having recurrent miscarriages is so very hard. I was waiting to post an update to this thread but on receiving your message I wanted to reply and hopefully give you some hope 🤞🏼 I am 30w pregnant now!!… I’d be lying if I said I have totally relaxed into this pregnancy and feel I will quite honestly only fully allow myself to breathe properly again once I’m holding my baby and all is well. I send you lots and lots of baby dust and positive thoughts, don’t give up hope ❤️🙏🏼

Hello, congratulations on your pregnancy! I am currently holding my sleeping boy, 11 weeks old. Conceived after 4 years of infertility and three losses. There is hope! Sending you positive vibes xxx

Oh I've just seen your update! That's amazing! So happy for you.