Prepared to be flamed. Obsessively thinking about ex?!

[isitthehormoness]

Long term relationship, happily married, pregnant with second baby.

A few days ago I had a dream about a really lovely day I had with an ex boyfriend. I woke up and was thinking back through all our old memories. I searched for him on Facebook and had a little stalk and read through pages and pages of our old messages. I remembered when my phone was broken we emailed for a few weeks when I was in work and I went back and read them. It was all so sweet. Such intense love and passion and it was all so exciting and cute.

I can't stop thinking about him since and I feel insane! I know the likelihood I'm having some revelation and only realising now I should of ended up with him is ridiculous as I haven't thought this ever, or about him, in years. I keep ending up back on our messages just reading through them. I won't message him or add him obviously. Im just wondering why I'm suddenly so fixated on him and so sad about these lost feelings of young love. It's all so different in marriage and as parents and much more fulfilling long term but I am feeling very weird! Is it hormones? I'm 5 months pregnant!

I have no advice on this sorry but it sounds very fimilar to that nextflix series Sex Life!

Rose tinted glasses…you split for a reason and the grass is rarely greener on the other side especially with ex’s. Focus on your present not your past

Hormones. Definitely...
It will pass don't worry 😁

*similar not fimilar

100% hormones. I had really intense dreams about a (female) ex when pregnant. Was so worried I’d been lying to myself about my sexuality, that I was making huge mistakes etc. Barely even think about her now, it was definitely just a weird passing obsession.

Pregnancy dreams are NUTS. I almost miss them!! It’s your hormones. Amazing though too how powerful they are.

I also never laughed so hard as I did when pregnant. Proper cant speak laughing too much laughter like I was a teenager. Good times

Absolutely pregnancy dreams plus hormones! I had a dream the other night that my partner broke up with me. I think it was because I'm pregnant... with his baby... Anyway, it made sense in the dream. So then dream me concluded the obvious next step was to put myself and our unborn child on Tinder. Again, totally made sense in the dream. Then no one was interested in me because of the baby.

I thought about telling my partner about my crazy dream, but thought it was so totally mental it'd be hard to explain/understand and would probably just hurt his feelings. I also did think the next morning that being pregnant would probably have been a plus on Tinder, given some of the types you find lurking there. Crazy dream 😂

Pregnancy hormones!! God, they're wild. I miss them!
I have shagged everyone under the sun, men and women, in my pregnancy dreams. Absolutely amazing dreams. And even old colleagues... I would wake up and think, "Him? Eww! I can't stand him! Why am I doing the reverse cowboy with him? What a waste of a good dream!"

It's all menopausal and very dry for me nowadays... even though I'm soaking in my own sweat. Yuck!
Mostly, I dream of drowning in a dark sea filled with monsters or an ax-murderer chasing me.
Again, hormones... or lack of.

@CycleGirl20 if I didn’t know any different I would of honestly thought that was me writing that. I had the exact same dream the other night. DH left me and I was so upset and worried because I didn’t want to be alone when pregnant so I decided I had to return to tinder to find someone! Haha!

@ChloeHel 🤣. It's a ridiculous dream! I thought it was quite funny but when I thought about telling DH I thought he'd probably be upset I'd think he could leave me (I don't think that) and then worried I'd put his baby on Tinder. Seems we're all having crazy dreams OP!

I promise you it’s the hormones! I had this and it drove me absolutely mental but it didn’t last long thank god. Just make sure you can control yourself until it passes and do not reach out to him 😂

Ok phew. I've been driving myself insane. I have been constantly reasoning with later that I am happily married with (nearly) two kids, not to mention married to a man with a good job, who cooks and cleans, has a drivers license, is a good hands on parent, kind and funny, and have a brilliant life together and I'm pining over a 30 year old gamer who still lives with his mum all of a sudden! There is no logic!