Currently in Hospital with severe blood loss. 21+6 weeks, could lose my baby

[aimeeeleanor]

Admitted to hospital yesterday with severe blood loss. No abdomen or back pain

Did a urine test which said my waters have gone, since had a scan which saw plenty of fluid in the womb surrounding baby boy, so test could have been a false positive

Been bleeding consistently since 3.15pm yesterday (it’s now 8.00 the following morning) & have been in hospital since

Midwives & Doctors dont really know whats going on or where its coming from. Placenta looks fine, baby looks happy, cervix is long & closed. They have basically told me its a watch & wait game but if baby boy comes before 22 weeks we will lose him. Anything after 22 weeks & im still bleeding they may have to transfer me to a bigger unit

Has anybody else suffered significant blood loss at 20+ weeks & actually gone on to have a healthy baby?

I am absolutely terrified & feeling very alone right now. The thought of losing my baby boy is more than I can bare. I feel like my body is letting him down. I should be taking care of him, I’m his Mummy

I haven't been in the situation but just want to offer a handhold. This sounds incredibly stressful.
How are you feeling overall? Is your partner able to with be you?

@SunnySideUp2020 thank you. Yes luckily my husband has been able to stay with me all night which was good. I’m exhausted but not in any pain really. Just worrying :(

I can't even begin to imagine how worried you must be. And the fact that they have no clear explanation is so weird.
But at least you are with your husband, this is good ❤️
Are they monitoring baby's movements/contractions on monitor? Or is it too early?

Just read your post and wanted to send a hand hold and virtual hug and my best wishes.

I really hope everything will turn out for the best.

I had something similar happen to me and my baby. I won't go into details buy just wanted to say that I know what you mean about feeling like you're letting your baby down and your body isn't doing its job properly. But please realise this is a normal emotion/thought in your circumstances but it isn't the truth. You have not made this happen. It isn't your fault. I know its really hard but please do cling onto the fact that you love your baby and would do anything for them. This is not your fault and you have nothing to feel guilty about. It is a horrible thing that is happening to you, you did not cause it to happen

This happened to me at around 19 weeks. 2 days of heavy bleeding, passing large clots. Every one I thought was my baby. It was awful and scary and I sympathise 💐

It settled down and stopped. No explanation for why it happened.
My daughter was born 2 weeks late 6lb and healthy.

Hoping for the best outcome for you too x

I've nothing useful to add OP but just wanted to send a handhold

I know it must sound impossible right now but try to relax, can you read a book or magazine, listen to a podcast, concentrate on your breathing, graze on Mumsnet? (Avoiding AIBU obviously)

(Feel free to chuck a hospital pillow at me for saying the above)

Thinking of you 🙂

@SunnySideUp2020 too early for monitoring but they listened to his heartbeat this morning after i posted & it was absolutely fine thank god. Just had the obs consultant come who has said there doesnt seem to be any active signs of losing the pregnancy and no obvious signs of the blood loss coming from the uterus which are both good signs. But they obviously need to still keep an eye on me as i’m still bleeding from somewhere. Fingers crossed all will be ok xx

@LASandOtto thank you xx

I know a few women who’ve had bleeds, in one case on and off through the pregnancy, and all was well.
Everything crossed here for you OP.

Yes! I had this at 19 weeks and thought the pregnancy was over. Heartbeat was fine. I then had about 7 or 8 massive bleeds over the remainder of the pregnancy. Like, blood gushing out of me and soaking my pants, jeans and running down my legs sort of bleeds. I had hospital stays (one for 5 days), and I got to the point where I didn’t go in every time it happened as I could feel the baby move and it had happened so many times before. In the end I had an emergency section just before I was 37 weeks when I had another massive bleed one morning and my kitchen was left looking like a murder scene. Baby was absolutely fine and is a thriving 2.5 year old now. It was a pretty rough pregnancy!

Best of luck to you and hope it’s a one off and baby is fine.

Should have said that they never did find out what it was (either during a detailed additional scan or during the section when the consultant had a good look at everything). Just one of those things!

Sorry to hear what you’re going through, OP. I have no advice but wanted to offer a hand hold.

The fact they’ve said there’s no sign of bleeding from the uterus, no cramps and baby looks fine are all positives. Hold on to that. Keep us updated x

Sweetheart you are his mummy and you are taking the very best care of him, you cannot do anymore than you are doing. You've sought medical attention, you're in the best place and you're loving him as much as its humanly possible to do. That is doing your very best for him and never ever think otherwise. 💞

This happened to me twice - once at 20 weeks and once at 23+5. At 23+5 I spent five days on delivery suite, bleeding on and off while they prepared for baby’s early arrival. Then the bleeding stopped and I carried to term with no further issues! It was very stressful but hang in there and I wish you all the best

@msssm oh gosh how scary im sorry you had to go through that! Did it eventually just get lighter & stop? Mine is lighter but more bright red now. Keeping me in till tomorrow for a scan. Did you end up hospitalised with your bleed?

@MeanMrMustardSeed oh that sounds terrifying im so sorry! I’m glad everything worked out for you & your baby :) this gives me hope. They’re keeping me in till at least tomorrow when they can fit me in for a scan. Bleeding is a bit lighter now but it’s more bright red. How did your bleeds slow can you remember? Midwife is saying it should turn brown but its not coming from the uterus so i dont see how

[quote aimeeeleanor]@msssm oh gosh how scary im sorry you had to go through that! Did it eventually just get lighter & stop? Mine is lighter but more bright red now. Keeping me in till tomorrow for a scan. Did you end up hospitalised with your bleed?[/quote]
I was hospitalised for the 2 days it lasted. It did just tail off in the end, but it was such a scary time I really do sympathise.

After it though I heard so many stories from people who had been through similar, just as there seems to be on here. All went on to have healthy babies. It seems it is not as rare as it seems.

I did have some bleeding through all of my pregnancies, although mostly earlier on and much lighter.

Hoping you are much better today x

I had bleeding at 33 weeks. It came out like a big gush as if my waters had gone, but still plenty of fluid. They never found out why or what caused it. It's so, so scary at the time isn't it. We were in full lock down at the time so I was alone. I had a couple more incidents of bleeding so I was induced at 37 weeks. My daughter was (and still is) petite, but perfectly healthy.

Just wanted to send lots of love OP. I have recently been in the same boat, 4 bleeds requiring admission and a couple of weeks in a neonatal unit. They know the cause in my case is due to the placenta but situation v similar-
lots of uncertainty especially when the bleeds first started as under the 24 week mark and had a heavy bleed at 25 weeks too with clots.
Fortunately all ok with baby and the bleeding randomly seemed to stop around 27 weeks…

I know it is utterly terrifying and not a situation you want or expect to find yourself in but I’ve been told bleeding in pregnancy whilst not normal is not uncommon. On the antenatal ward I was in there were a couple of us there having had big bleeds and fortunately all still ok (& pregnant!)

I have found the uncertainty of the whole situation really difficult, especially the discussion around what happens if baby comes very early and am counting each extra day as a milestone. Have just hit 35 weeks which 10 weeks ago felt like only a glimmer. Wishing you all the best of luck and hope the rest of your pregnancy runs smoothly

Not personally gone through this,

But sending you lots of love ❤️

Hope all is well with you and baby, such a shame your going through this xx

I'm sorry I can't say anything that would help you, but just sending you positive thoughts. I hope everything will turn out fine.

How are you today OP?

Thinking of you OP 💐