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Help me with my conceived date. Hormonal full pills.

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2015StayAtHomeWife · 10/03/2022 05:00

I need help if my conceived date was right, just trying to solve a debate with a friend. My friend keep saying my conceived date was wrong, I think she just like to debate for the heck of debate.

I was on the full pills, 28 pills pack. And the last week of the pills is your withdrawal bleeding from the hormones of the pills, it NOT your real period. And you DON'T ovulate an egg while on the pills, so it wasn't a natural period.
Last week of April (while on the pills) I got my withdrawal bleeding.

May 2nd and 3rd, I missed two pills, due to I got food poisoning and vomiting alot. Since I miss 2 pills so my hormones are out of whack.

My husband had sex with me every single day in the WHOLE month of May. He really really want us to have a baby together.

I got pregnant.

My son EDD from the dating ultrasound was Feb 18th.

Therefore put my ovulation date/conceived date at the END of May, May 29-30.

Does this sound right to you on my conceived date? So it tooks me 4 weeks from the date I missed my pills to me actually ovulate an egg and got pregnant?
..........
So my withdrawal bleeding from the hormonal pills in the last week of April not matter? (my friend keep said it matter and went by that). But it was not a real period, it was bleeding from the last week of the pills pack, women who on birth control pills do get withdrawal bleeding at last week of the pack, but it not a real period and no ovulation.

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ImWithMuriel · 10/03/2022 05:28

Sorry, just struggling to understand so you missed pills on 2nd and 3rd? Did you then take them again after that or stop them completely during May?

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2015StayAtHomeWife · 10/03/2022 05:46

@ImWithMuriel

Sorry, just struggling to understand so you missed pills on 2nd and 3rd? Did you then take them again after that or stop them completely during May?
My friend keep debate with me that because I got my withdrawal bleeding at the end of April (while on the pill) and she count that as a real period and said I MUST conceived in May 7, and that my EDD was wrong. But I keep explained to her that the bleeding you get while ON the pills are NOT a real period, it just bleeding from the hormones of the pills on the last week of the package. You do know you don't ovulate an egg when you on the full hormonal pills right? So how can you the bleeding you get from the end of the pack count as a real period?

My son EDD was Feb 18th, so that put me at the conceive date of May 29-30. NOT May 7th.
But she keep tell me my date was off because my withdrawal bleeding as the end of April, so it must be May 7th.

My question is, does the bleeding you get while on the pills count as a real period or not? If not, then you obviously don't ovulate an egg, so how can she she count it as if I was having a natural period.

My EDD put me that I ovulate at the END of May, not the begining of May like she keep telling me.

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2015StayAtHomeWife · 10/03/2022 05:47

So who right here? My EDD or her just go by my withdrawal bleeding at the end of April, which are just the bleeding from the pill pack, it wasn't a real period, as you don't ovulate while on the pills.

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dementedpixie · 10/03/2022 06:07

You've posted this already. It doesn't matter what she says or when you had a withdrawal bleed as they go by the dates in your scan. Did you not say in the last post that you've already had your baby anyway? Did the birth match up with your scan dates?

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2015StayAtHomeWife · 10/03/2022 06:17

@dementedpixie

You've posted this already. It doesn't matter what she says or when you had a withdrawal bleed as they go by the dates in your scan. Did you not say in the last post that you've already had your baby anyway? Did the birth match up with your scan dates?
Yes. My son born 2 days before the EDD. He born Feb 16th and the EDD was Feb 18th.

I posted this again here in this "pregnancy" section because I still haven't got the answer to my question. So does my withdrawal bleeding at the end of April when I was on the pills count or not? If that count then I should ovulate 2 weeks from that, not 4 weeks from that.

But my EDD pointed to I conceived END of May, not begin of May.

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StripyOnesie · 10/03/2022 06:22

You are right. Your friend is wrong.

dementedpixie · 10/03/2022 06:55

No your withdrawal bleed doesn't count. But also, it doesn't matter whether it counts or not as you've already had your child and they were born around the due date given.

Blackbirdflyintothelight · 10/03/2022 07:20

The reason why pregnancy is dated from last period is because it's impossible to be accurate about a conception date. You can never know for sure. I get ovulation pain so I know the exact time I ovulated but my due date would put my "conception" date out by 5 days.

SheWoreYellow · 10/03/2022 07:24

Using a pregnancy calculator, I get for due date 18th feb:
Last period 11th of may
Conception 25th may.

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2015StayAtHomeWife · 10/03/2022 07:30

@SheWoreYellow

Using a pregnancy calculator, I get for due date 18th feb: Last period 11th of may Conception 25th may.
Can you help try again with this, EDD Feb 18, 2018 back in 2018 calender, my son he 4 now.

It just I didn't missed any pills in April and I got my withdrawal bleeding from the last week pills of the pack and that end of April.

Then began of May I missed my pills. And it pointed me to conception date of last week of May. It just confuse me that it 4 weeks since my missed pill for me to ovulate.

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2015StayAtHomeWife · 10/03/2022 07:32

@Blackbirdflyintothelight

but do the withdrawal bleeding from the last week of the 28 pills month pack count as a real period though? as you don't ovulate when you on the hormonal full pills, so it said it was the bleeding from the pills hormones, not your natural period (like if you not take the pills).

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dementedpixie · 10/03/2022 07:34

Did you continue taking the pill even though you could have been pregnant?

00100001 · 10/03/2022 07:36

Why do you need such a precise due date and conception date? Confused

It's not as if there's any doubt of the father,and baby will come exactly when they are ready to come, and even if it was the nth of April, doesn't mean your baby will come on that day or 2 days before....

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dementedpixie · 10/03/2022 07:39

It is a question you will never have the true answer to and in the grand scheme of things it doesn't even matter. You child is 4 now, why is it still bothering you?

Unsureaboutit9 · 10/03/2022 07:39

It does off your last period until you have your 12 week scan, at which point they give you your EDD that is the ‘correct’ one that you go off for the rest of the pregnancy, so you are right. But honestly it more than 4 YEARS ago, how are you still debating this? You and your friend need to move on.

00100001 · 10/03/2022 07:49

Omg I completely missed this was for achikd born FOUR YEARS AGO.

why does it matter??? What difference will "knowing" it was x date make??

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2015StayAtHomeWife · 10/03/2022 07:51

It just my friend she adamant that I need to go by my withdrawal bleeding while on the pills in the month of April, and count that as a REAL period, and that I must ovulate 2 weeks from end of April.
But then all women who take the full pills got withdrawal bleeding at the end of each month, does that make ALL of them ovulate mid of following month? I don't think so.

She even said my Obgyn EDD was wrong, and that dating ultrasound can be wrong, and that my son could have come late.
I guess she just want to argue for the heck of argue.

And I did continue take the pills after my 2 missed pills at the begining of May, but I guess it not work, because I did get pregnant at the end of May. Perhaps once you missed the pills your hormones go out of whack, or maybe we just meant to be to have a baby.

Thank you so much for everyone help, sorry English is my third language.

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dementedpixie · 10/03/2022 07:56

After missing pills it takes 7 days of pill taking to be covered against pregnancy and youre supposed to take extra precautions or use emergency contraception if you don't want to get pregnant. That's potentially 9 days where you could get pregnant. (Although I'm not sure its safe to continue taking the pill if there's a chance you're pregnant).

Regardless, you've had your child and none of it matters any more.

Unsureaboutit9 · 10/03/2022 08:04

But you don’t need to go by anything, your child is FOUR. It doesn’t matter that it’s not your first language, your English is absolutely fine, but your child has been born, the point you bled nearly 5 years ago and your EDD are now irrelevant to life. But like most of us have said, your friend is wrong so you have your answer.

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2015StayAtHomeWife · 10/03/2022 08:06

I wasn't ready to have a baby at the time. So I continue take it. May passed, June came my husband suspect I got pregnant so he beg me to take a pregnancy test, I was in denial I keep said it can't be, it can't be, it can't be.
I did take multiple pregnancy test in June and it was all positive, so yeah, I got pregnant. At then I stop my birth control pills, my Obgyn said it was okay. And my son did born healthy.

Thank you for your help, and yes, it was half my fault that I didn't take extra precaution in that widow period when I had my 2 missed pill.

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gemloving · 10/03/2022 08:08

Having read this thread I wonder: why do you care? This was 4 years ago Confused

dementedpixie · 10/03/2022 08:16

Are you fixating on your friend because you are trying to distract yourself from the fact your husband coerced you into having sex every day to try and get you pregnant when you were on the pill to try and prevent pregnancy? It's him you should be angry with as well as your friend. Stop blaming yourself for their actions Flowers

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2015StayAtHomeWife · 10/03/2022 08:31

@dementedpixie

Are you fixating on your friend because you are trying to distract yourself from the fact your husband coerced you into having sex every day to try and get you pregnant when you were on the pill to try and prevent pregnancy? It's him you should be angry with as well as your friend. Stop blaming yourself for their actions Flowers
Since you here can you help me with validate my feeling on this Mrs. dementedpixie.

Was I wrong and was it my fault for not use the word No? My friend (female) said that it was my fault for not use the two letter word No. And if I did say No my husabnd would stop, how would he suppose to know when I did not use the word NO.

Please help validate my feeling.
TMI below:

My husband he initiated sex. I specificly told him (more than once) that it was not a good time due to my missed pills, and I didn't want to get pregnant (and he saw me vomit that 2 days from my food poisoning so he clearly know I missed the pills). But in all fairness to him, I did NOT use the word No.

I guess he ignore what I said above. Because he went on forcefully suck on my mouth, then to my neck, then he slide down one side of my shirt and forcefully suck on my shoulder repeatedly, repeatedly, he just won’t stop use his mouth. However I did not say the word No.

BUT

what I did was called his name, while tried to get him to stop use his mouth sucking on me. Then I called his name again, while again tried to get him to stop him from sucking on my shoulder and get him off me. But he just won't stop. Even though I did not use the word No, but this alone should gave him the hint right? No, I did not kissed him back or engage back in what he does to me.

Well, we had sex, after I gave in.

But another thing that bother me was my missed pills was at the beginning of the month May 2nd and 3rd. He went on had sex with me every single day for the WHOLE remaining month calendar of May, so till May 31st he still had sex with me, every single day. So he clearly KNOW what he was doing. One time I can understand, but the WHOLE month?

My friend keep telling me that it was my fault for not say No, how he suppose to know when I did not say No.
I do take responsibility for not say No, but I keep feel uneasy about this. As it been 4 years and I still can't get passed this.
I didn't want children, but I have no regret have my son, you a mother too you know how I feel. It just I feel so unfair that my husband put me in a "motherhood" role, a forever role, as our role as a mom don't end when our child turn 18.

Was it my fault for not say No?

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nuffinimlazyatthemoment · 10/03/2022 08:35

You have bigger problems than the date you conceived 4 years ago. Are you still with your husband? Because he sounds like an arsehole.

00100001 · 10/03/2022 11:23

@gemloving

Having read this thread I wonder: why do you care? This was 4 years ago Confused
Because it turns out that 4 years ago, she was coerced into sex for a month, and wants to know if this is when she got pregnant. Or was it when she was choosing when to have sex...