Worrying in early pregnancy

[Pregnantpolly]

Tested positive on 14th February and it still does not seem real. I'm feeling nervous about every twinge.

I haven't self referred yet to the midwife because I still feel apprehensive. What if no heartbeat is found or what if any other issues arise? It's pretty ridiculous to be this worried.

I'm still early 30s and look up all miscarrying risk factors and the only one that really applies is night shift work.

I feel fatigued and nauseated regularly which is not me. I'm never sick so it stresses me out if this is going to be my life.

I'm not bothering with private scans at the moment and our trust do the first scan at 12 weeks which is still pretty far off but from my googling 12 weeks seems to be a pretty good marker for viability if everything is OK in the scan.

It's anyone the same and overthinking it all? Any tips for getting past worrying stage.

Congratulations! In my experience each stage comes with a new worry (let alone when they're born!!) but the first trimester is so hard.

The odds are overwhelmingly in your favour to have a baby in 8 months time. This comes from someone who had missed miscarriage - I saw a heartbeat at the scan and at the next scan, the heartbeat had stopped. It is very real and does happen, but this type of miscarriage is also fairly uncommon. That was 3 years ago and I now have an 18 month old, as well as ttc again!

Hi @Pregnantpolly I felt the same way throughout my entire pregnancy - constantly worried. I obsessively read stats and mumsnet threads. I think it was because I felt so out of control - anything could happen and there was nothing I could do about it.

I do recommend self-referring sooner rather than later, so you can see a midwife and talk about your concerns.

I don't really have any advice, as I now have a 1 year old and I'm still very anxious about her. I kept thinking that I would feel less anxious after every milestone (12 week scan, 20 week scan, birth, etc) but in reality it was just new anxieties.

I'm trying to focus on thinking about the things I can control, like feeding her safe foods and keeping her routine on track, rather than things I can't.

Good luck :)

@Chanel05 @sarahb083 thanks for the reassurance ladies. Caved and went for an early scan yesterday. Everything seems ok so far.