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Am I Allowed to Orgasm?

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PeeAche · 08/03/2022 16:33

I only have one real-life pregnant comrade and it's actually just a woman in my department who is having a perfect pregnancy.

Whilst I was having hyperemesis, she was modelling for a local magazine. 🤦🏻‍♀️😅😳

She has the most gorgeous little bump, whilst I'm carrying transverse and look wider than my car! 😅😅

I have Major Placenta Praevia with some second trimester bleeding and my consultant has told me no sex. I've taken this quite literally and ditched all penetrative activity.

Today Perfect Pregnancy asked me about my birth plan. I explained that I've notionally got some ideas but that I'm waiting until my 32 week scan before I get too carried away. This was the first time I'd mentioned my placenta to her, because I'm feeling like it's not too big a deal, and there's still time for it to move. Just not getting too hung up on it.

She seemed to know more about it than me! She asked if I've been told no sex and orgasms? I felt a bit embarrassed but said "just no sex" and she said I need to get clarification from my consultant or midwife because she's 100% it's also no orgasms.

I obviously acted like it's no big deal either way, except...

I've been orgasming almost every day since the Hyperemesis subsided. 😅

Is this thing she said true? Feel like a bit of an idiot ringing up my midwife to clarify if I can keep up the non-penetrative activity. I haven't had any bleeding since Christmas Day.

Advice online seems to be mixed.

Anybody got any experience of this?

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PeeAche · 08/03/2022 16:34

I'm 25 weeks, 35 years old and this is my first successful pregnancy.

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MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 08/03/2022 16:36

No idea but your post made me chuckle

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 08/03/2022 16:36

And I do realise I win the award for the most unhelpful post ever on MN

Jupiter92 · 08/03/2022 16:37

I don’t know if it’s true or not but I hope it’s not! That would be a loooong few months 😅
I’d just double check with your midwife, I’m sure they’ve heard it all and won’t be shocked!

yorkshireteaspoonie · 08/03/2022 16:38

Every day? 😳

NinjaQueen · 08/03/2022 16:40

I have no idea but could see reasons for both?

Penetration because it can bash against it, orgasms because of the contractions involved?

britneyisfree · 08/03/2022 16:40

I think it's true. I heard it's about the vibrations in the body more than just about penetration. Sorry if I'm wrong and also how badly worded that is!!

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PeeAche · 08/03/2022 16:40

I'm an active woman. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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DowntonCrabby · 08/03/2022 16:42

I’d probably get the clarification from your MW but I’d definitely stop discussing my sex life with Miss PP, how nosy of her!

iyhryjg · 08/03/2022 16:43

Best to check at your next appointment. I abstained from both sex and orgasm during my last pregnancy with placenta previa. No bleeding throughout.

Nikki037297 · 08/03/2022 16:45

I think orgasms can cause contractions only minor ones and not many but I would ask your midwife. I know it’s been ok so far but maybe as you got further on there could be a problem then but I would ask your midwife

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PeeAche · 08/03/2022 16:48

She's a nice girl, she just has very few boundaries. 😅

Oh man, I really hate asking my midwife things. I think she thinks I'm insane. I asked her last time if I could still go down the water slide at my local swimming pool when I take the step kids swimming. And then I had to pretend I was joking.

I also asked her if BBQ food is carcinogenic. She pointed out that it won't be BBQ season before my due date. I agreed, obviously.... But I've already had 3 BBQs since February.

🤦🏻‍♀️

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florianfortescue · 08/03/2022 16:49

I have had placenta praevia and was only warned about penetration. I have continued to orgasm the whole way through my pregnancy (now at term). I reckon if it's not causing you any bleeding then crack on! Oxytocin is good for you and the baby! It's mainly the risk of bleeding they're worried about isn't it.

Thewindwhispers · 08/03/2022 17:08

I did abstain (mostly) because I didn’t think contracting the womb the baby was trying to grow in was wise. I didn’t bother asking th doctor because almost everything th NHS has told me has been the exact opposite of correct.

I did use orgasms to get labour moving though once I was ready for baby to get a move on!

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PeeAche · 08/03/2022 17:18

Thank you all for your advice and experience. :)

@florianfortescue did your placenta move?

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florianfortescue · 08/03/2022 17:35

It did, enough that I don't need a C section anyway. They're still keen for me to come in to hospital rather than have a home birth. I was 34 weeks I think when they last checked. Apparently it does move in time for 90% of women so fingers crossed yours does too!

IzzyLeigh · 08/03/2022 17:45

Hi hi. I was told no penetrative activity as well (pelvic rest). This sometimes includes orgasms but definitely not always. It depends on your unique situation and why they are restricting you to begin with. Usually they will specifically tell you if they want you to prohibit orgasms as well. Otherwise, it tends to be assumed to be standard pelvic rest (aka just nothing in the vagina and you can orgasm to your heart's content).
Ask the midwife or doctor who told you to go on pelvic rest and they will be able to tell you what is right for you.

Garman · 08/03/2022 21:34

So, I had complete placenta previa. I was told no sex, nothing was said about orgasm. But out of the 3 bleeds I had, two were after orgasms, which really is a bit of a coincidence as they were the only two times I had them from diagnosis onwards.

TracxeyS1111 · 24/02/2023 23:39

I was told on my first trimester to avoid sex and orgasums by midwife. I could not not believe how easily and matter of fact she said it and I just nodded and agreed of course,
It was fine for the first week as felt was acting on medical advice. But then it was hell. Ive always had a high sex drive and with pregnancy hormones it was more intense and struggled with it.

Garman · 25/02/2023 06:43

@TracxeyS1111 it's only advised for specific medical reasons, it's not necessary in general pregnancy your midwife was talking nonsense unless there was a medical/high risk reason.

TracxeyS1111 · 26/02/2023 19:22

Garman · 25/02/2023 06:43

@TracxeyS1111 it's only advised for specific medical reasons, it's not necessary in general pregnancy your midwife was talking nonsense unless there was a medical/high risk reason.

that what I thought in the end. There was no specific medical reason. I gave in anyway, hubby was standing by the rule book but I had to get some relief alone. It all worked out fine!

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