Stressed with toddler & pregnant

[Luclou]

Hi all.
I'm 17 weeks pregnant and I'm just feeling extremely stressed with my 19 month old, which has built up to me being into tears.
She doesn't want to eat anything I give her at meal time and she just throws plate, no matter on how many times I've tried to stop it. Today she nearly hit me with it and it's just built up stress as I can't get her to eat anything but snacks.
I'm really scared all this stress, frustration and crying will harm the pregnancy and cause a misscarrige. (I've had one in past)

Can anyone give any reasurrance that the baby will be okay ?

You cant expect life to be just happiness and calm, our bodies are prepared for it all. And specially pregnancy hormones can themselves drive you mad, I'm super annoyed angry stressed throughout this pregnancy, and there am i still not gone into labout day and a half before due date... was worried like you... now stressing nothings happening lol

Hi Luclou, I just found your thread as I am in a similar situation: I’m 26 weeks pregnant and 20-month old toddler is hard work ! I hope the situation has got better for you since you posted.

My DS is constantly testing us with his behaviour, shouting, crying and whinging as well as always being on the lookout for ‘naughty’ things to do. To cope I now making an effort to try to stay zen during trying behaviour. Obviously if it’s ‘dangerous’ or ‘hurtful’ situations I do react strongly (stern, raised voice, removing DS from the situation) At one point I was letting his behaviour overwhelm me and you’re right, it’s not good for Baby 2 to be in a constant state of stress.

With your mealtime issue, it’s most likely a phase. DS will sometimes reject his dinner but that must be so tough and discouraging with your DD doing it every time. I follow this account on Insta and she has some useful tips about kid’s mealtimes : instagram.com/kids.eat.in.color?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

It’s mainly geared towards a bit older but there are some techniques you can use with toddlers. Don’t beat yourself up too much about the snacks, the main thing is that she’s eating. Will she eat the healthier snacks like veggie straws, fruit and sugar-free yogurt ?

Unless your child is under weight OP they will eat when they are ready.

Hi OP. I’m also 17 weeks with an 18 month toddler. She went through this exact same phase about 3 weeks ago for 2 weeks! She wouldn’t eat any form of meal I’d try to give her! The only thing she’d eat was grated mozzarella and bread! In the end we stopped stressing and just gave her the snacks and the mozzarella and bread as some form of food is better than none! She’s now gone back to eating great again. So try not to stress and just feed her whatever she will have.

also don’t bother with a plate! Just put the food on the high chair tray, we gave up with the plate after she’d just empty all the contents on the tray then launch the plate!

You stressing about it will make it worse - it's negative reinforcement (or my understanding of that). Your kid only wants one or two things? Fine give them that. They won't starve or get undernourished, and without any reaction from you they will likely go back to normal. Your non reaction to bad behaviour will nullify it.
How much does your child understand about your baby? They will be a huge adjustment for them.