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Shared parental leave- how to split the time?

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Wildflower2 · 07/03/2022 17:04

My partner and I are planning on using shared parental leave, however trying to work out the best way to split the time. We're hoping to take the full 12 months, whilst there will be a financial hit we thought that it's a chance we'd never have again, it's our first baby.
For those of you who've taken shared parental or are planning on doing it, how have you split your time? What's worked well or not?
I was thinking that I'd likely need more time, with recovery from birth and so on and he'd have a smaller proportion (maybe 9 months-3 months). Curious to hear your thoughts as I don't know many people who've used SPL :-)

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ShirleyPhallus · 07/03/2022 17:05

We did 8 months (me) and 4 months (him) which worked really well. We then used our leave for some overlap, so took a month off together for family holidays etc and had a few week “handover” when we both were off together.

It worked really well, was so good to each experience having time off with the baby and then being the working parent

Twizbe · 07/03/2022 17:10

Most people I know have done 9/3 split. Realistically the woman does need longer, especially if you're breastfeeding.

That said, I didn't do it. I hate the fact that women have to give up their leave for this. Much better if men could have their own 12 months off.

If you can overlap any with annual leave that's worth doing. You can take a holiday together and ease the handover.

TheBirdintheCave · 07/03/2022 17:11

We could only afford nine months. We did six months me and three months husband as my wage is greater.

stackhead · 07/03/2022 17:13

6 months me (I started a new job). 3 months him and then he decided to stay home full time (well he works 8 hours on a saturday)

Wildflower2 · 07/03/2022 17:15

Definitely think there should be more to help the partner take time off as well- companies which offer leave allowance (akin to mat leave) are few and far between.
We're hoping that it'll provide bonding time for both of us and help with a more shared/equitable approach to parenting long term.
Great idea about using annual leave to overlap.

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lechatnoir · 07/03/2022 17:20

In an ideal world I'd try and have at least 6 months preferably 9 months off and then let OH take the rest (this is what we did and then OH remained a SAHP for 3 years). I like the idea of an overlap for some holiday/family time if you can afford it - go travelling and have an adventure whilst baby is still portable!

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