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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Unplanned Pregnancy

3 replies

M1997 · 05/03/2022 21:28

I’ve recently found out I’m unexpectedly pregnant. And unsure what to do next.

I got pregnant whilst on the mini pill so unsure of how many weeks, clear blue said 3 weeks+. I am not in a relationship with the father, however we’re very close friends, I live in the city I went to university away from my family, and there is currently some structural changes in management at work so my job isn’t 100% safe. It might help to add that the father has recently gone onto anti depressants and hasn’t been a good place mentally for around a month. I haven’t told him about the pregnancy yet as I’m worried how he might take it.

For some more background, 18 months ago, I had a missed miscarriage (around 9weeks) with an ex partner. Again unplanned pregnancy. Due to covid and my ex not wanting the child I had to go through it alone. Which was quite traumatic for me. I have abit of anxiety surrounding pregnancy now.

I have always wanted children. And I can’t help but view getting pregnant on contraception as fate- especially after the miscarriage. However, I know my current situation is far from ideal to have a baby, and the thought of being a single mum scares me. I’m also scared of the possibility of another miscarriage and how I’d mentally cope. I have an amazing family network who are unbelievably supportive so I know the option to move back to my hometown is always there. I’m just unsure of what to do really

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PoniesLove · 06/03/2022 07:54

If you want a child and think you could cope financially etc I would go for it . Let the father know and he can make his decision but make your own mind up about how YOU feel
about having a baby xx

wishuponastar1988 · 06/03/2022 09:24

Follow your heart and do what is right for you - your body your decision xx

RandomMess · 06/03/2022 09:27

That sounds really tough for you Thanks

I hope this pregnancy goes well.

A slight aside is that if hormonal contraceptive has been taken correctly and you haven't been unwell (vomiting etc) it's likely that you are one of the people that it just doesn't work for.

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