Just found out I’m pregnant - feeling nervous about miscarriage

[Emmah120595]

Just found out I’m 4 weeks pregnant and the pregnancy was planned so very excited when I found out the other day. I’m very grateful. However, I can’t help but worry about the possibility of miscarrying or something going wrong.
It’s my hen do at the end of the month and I get married in April so will probably have to either tell people early or people will guess themselves so that adds a bit of pressure
Just wondering if this is normal to have these worries? I’m 26

Congratulations! It's a worrying time for sure, I was the same! I found it helpful to book a private scan about 7-8 weeks, as if they can see a heartbeat at that point then miscarriage risk generally goes down. So that put my mind at ease.

@Bluebellsandbroomsticks thank you! Congratulations too. I’m actually going to book a 6-7 week scan in for this month just for peace of mind. I have heard that once there’s a heartbeat there is a lot less of a risk of miss carrying. It’s hard to be super excited when the risk is 10-15% of all pregnancies

Yeah I think it's normal. I'm terrified but then I suffer with anxiety anyway so I think it's worse because of that. Congrats by the way!

@TheBirdintheCave yes same here! I used to go counselling for my health anxiety so this definitely is a contributing factor to my nervousness but it’s all out of our control
Congratulations too

I've had a 7 week scan and an 8 week one, I would try and wait closer to 8 weeks if you can! At 6 weeks the baby is so tiny they may or may not see a heartbeat and it can sometimes worry you more!

I'm sure all is fine. Instead of thinking that there's a 10-15% chance of something going wrong, try to think of it as an 85-90% chance that everything will be ok. Sounds much more reassuring

I would also advise booking the scan for as late as possible, you are much more likely to see anything including a heartbeat, especially if they don't use internal scans. You also can't influence anything by having an earlier scan. I would keep busy in the next few weeks with staying healthy, keeping active, doing nice things to relax you and taking your folic acid etc! Cut out or reduce caffeine, no alcohol or smoking obviously! Congrats 💐

At 42 and previous loses I’m very scared but trying to be positive. Not even 4 weeks 🙏

Hi, congratulations!!! As others have said, reassurance scans definitely help to ease the anxiety. Remember, one of the contributing factors to miscarriage is stress! believe me I have been there due to miscarrying with my first pregnancy but we can't tempt fate, what will be will be so try to embrace the fact that your body is able and willing to accept a pregnancy and what will be will be!

I had early scans with this pregnancy at 7+4 and another at 10+4 just to be sure all was okay, it's risky prior to 7 weeks as a heartbeat isn't certain to be seen and can add more worry.

@Tinadecember Wow, it’s really not a good idea to say to people with anxiety that stress can cause miscarriage. My anxiety has now just sky rocketed at the thought that I’m likely killing my baby by worrying that it’s going to die 😢

[quote TheBirdintheCave]@Tinadecember Wow, it’s really not a good idea to say to people with anxiety that stress can cause miscarriage. My anxiety has now just sky rocketed at the thought that I’m likely killing my baby by worrying that it’s going to die 😢[/quote]
Please don't worry, usual levels of stress (eg pregnancy anxiety) are not enough to cause a miscarriage, otherwise I definitely wouldn't be 35 weeks pregnant. I had a missed miscarriage before this pregnancy, and then had some blood/spotting at 6-7 weeks so had an nhs scan. All fine, saw heartbeat but they said it was nearer to 5 weeks, cue more worry. It was just that it's very hard to measure so early on. @op maybe try a private scan at 7-8 weeks. Best of luck to you, chances are everything will be just fine!

I had a miscarriage at 10/weeks in November im now 6/weeks pregnant and terrified