Pregnancy and scared I’m not happy?

[Waddlegoose]

I have gone back and forth about having 3DC for ages. My heart has always wanted 3 but my logical head says it’s not practical.

Anyway we thought we would try and see what happens, fell pregnant and the HG sickness kicked in and all I can focus on is the negatives.

Someone said congratulations and I didn’t feel like it was a congratulations moment. I feel awful that I don’t feel like I did with the first two pregnancies, granted the sickness is the worst it’s ever been.

I am anxious if I can give my kids the attention they deserve, house is big enough but we will need a new car. Nothing major but I feel so anxious rather than excited.

I was the same when expecting my second child, many times I kept thinking wtf am I doing! It passed though by around the second trimester for me.

OP I completely understand. I am currently 11 weeks with DC3, which was planned but now I am so worn out and sick and like you I'm not enjoying it at all, then feeling bad as I should be enjoying it.

I am also very anxious this time around telling family, friends and especially work, so much so in fact that only 1 close friend knows.

I'm hoping this will pass when I start to feel a bit better and hopefully it will for you too

@TheHopefulMum completely get that, I’m not excited to tell people at all. More worried about the judgement.

If you ever want to message feel free happy to chat about our crazy plans and worries together.

I’m hoping it will pass too but definitely feels different.

@mummyh2016 to give myself credit at the end of my second pregnancy I did cry while cuddling my sleeping eldest thinking I had ruined his life…pregnancy hormones!

It's entirely normal not to feel happy I think - please don't put more pressure on yourself. Just give it a bit of time? You 100% don't have to go ahead if you don't want to, but I sense that you will end up feeling happy about it. FWIW I'm one of three and it's magic, couldn't imagine any other way.

@LittleGwyneth if I can get through the pregnancy I will be happy for sure. It’s the mental road of feeling so sick and useless that affects me. I know deep down I want a baby but I’m not sure I can do pregnancy.