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Pregnant and don’t want it

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Araevix · 28/02/2022 15:40

Hello. So I may sound so selfish but I really just need some advice, that’s not from friends or family. I already have a 2 yo and me and her father have been separated for a year, I’ve been with my current partner only a few months and recently found out I’m pregnant… with TWINS. It is my own fault, we weren’t using protection as we always had the thought of what will be will be and I was genuinely excited to potentially start a family ( partner and I have history beyond my older child’s father) but when I found out I was pregnant all I did was cry at the reality of it and when I found out it was twins, well it made it even worse. I originally said I wasn’t sure if I wanted to carry on the pregnancy, due to timing , finances and just everything. But my partner is so excited said it’s something he’s wanted since before he can remember, so I pushed myself to be excited and I thought i would naturally grow to be excited about this pregnancy, but it’s just getting worse. The more time is going on the more I realise that I’m only doing this for my partner and his family. I know the family that I have told so far will understand my decision (I am only 23) but all of his family and him are so excited and his parents have gone on to tell all of his extended family (much to my anger). But on the other hand knowing what baby’s grow into I am worried I will regret my decision if I decide not to go ahead with the pregnancy especially because it’s two. I am trying to be an adult about this and really think this through but I feel like I am making decisions based on other people’s feelings. Sorry for the long post . Also I am 7 weeks pregnant so far

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Araevix · 13/03/2022 22:05

I was also petrified of regret, and said this to my councillor. He said that life is full of regrets, and you cannot live your life wondering if you’ll regret the next decision you make, as you wouldn’t be living. He said to look at the bigger picture, what would you be saying if you’re best friend came to you saying the same things you’re saying, you would probably say do what’s best for YOU. Of course it’s incredibly sad, however only you know what the right thing to do is, no one else.

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Gigi30 · 14/03/2022 07:33

@Araevix

I was also petrified of regret, and said this to my councillor. He said that life is full of regrets, and you cannot live your life wondering if you’ll regret the next decision you make, as you wouldn’t be living. He said to look at the bigger picture, what would you be saying if you’re best friend came to you saying the same things you’re saying, you would probably say do what’s best for YOU. Of course it’s incredibly sad, however only you know what the right thing to do is, no one else.
Hi I've just caught up on your post and sounds like you've made the best decision for you and your daughter and i hope everything turns out OK for you. I was just curious to know (and tell me to butt out if you'd rather not discuss) how your partner took the news as i read you said he was really excited. I hope you all get through this ❤
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