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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Increased anxiety at 39 weeks pregnant

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Mads199 · 27/02/2022 16:45

I had anxiety pre-pregnancy anyway but actually it hasn’t been too bad throughout pregnancy with the exception of a few wobbles here and there; now I’m 39 weeks though, I feel like my anxiety is really ramping up.

I think the issue for me at the moment is that I know that if she were to arrive now she would be a full term and likely completely healthy baby, so in my irrational anxiety brain, that translates as ‘she’s not safe inside you and something will go wrong before you get to meet her if she doesn’t come now’. I guess before this week, it was always technically best for her to be inside, but now there’s the very real possibility of her arriving and us having a healthy baby, I’m panicking about her being inside.

Because of this I’m overthinking every tiny thing, I panic about her movements daily (she has never had a pattern, and isn’t a particularly active baby, my placenta is posterior but I have just barely felt her through pregnancy as it is) and work myself up about when labour will start, how long I have left, constantly googling symptoms of early labour even though I know all of them already. With all the adrenaline this anxiety must be producing, I know it’s going to lessen the likelihood of my body going into spontaneous labour anyway, but I’m just a bit at my wits end with how to cope mentally in these last couple of weeks.

For what it’s worth I’ve had a totally healthy pregnancy so far, this is my first child, my first pregnancy, I’ve had no scares at all and I’m low risk (aside from being under mixed midwife and consultant care because of my mental health history), no GD or high blood pressure, babies growth completely normal, so this worry really is completely irrational (if only that was enough to stop it…)

Does anybody else feel this/ has anybody else felt this way? What do you do to try and rationalise waiting for baby to arrive spontaneously and trusting that it will happen rather than constantly being anxious about it? I’m almost at the point of asking for an induction because of the stress, but ultimately I don’t want to have an induction and was hoping for a spontaneous labour if I could.

OP posts:
Dove88 · 27/02/2022 17:13

Hi, I don’t have a lot of advice I’m afraid but just wanted to say I was exactly the same way. My pregnancy was relatively easy and my anxiety throughout was fine considering I’ve been diagnosed with health anxiety before. But as soon as I hit 39 weeks and people started asking if she was here, the anxiety just ramped up.
I know that you read everywhere that you need to feel calm and happy for labour to start and I get the science behind that but honestly I think there’s too much emphasis placed on it. I’m sure every single women is anxious to some extent and if it really did make that much difference everybody would be induced.
I also wanted to say that I understand not wanting to be induced, I didn’t either as I felt I would be missing out on the ‘am I having contractions?’ moments at home. But in the end I was induced (due to it being ivf pregnancy) and it was fine. I was worried about the wait in the hospital between being induced and things moving forward but in the end it all just felt like part of the experience. She came easily and as far as I can tell ( she’s a week old today) it’s made no difference whatsoever to her.
Just try and enjoy your bump while you can, and treat yourself with empathy

SamuraiPizzaCats · 28/02/2022 17:54

I don't know if this is a stupidly obviousl
suggestion but have you tried all the hypnobirthing type breathing? Meditations etc?

I'm really enjoying this one at the moment, I try to do it in bed before going to sleep, or sometimes I'll do in the day bouncing on my birth ball.

open.spotify.com/episode/3lUYKxz6MN0HStSz1AXX97?si=CEc1Cy7XQlyNfV4sjKe2fA&utm_source=copy-link

I'm 38 weeks and nervous for labour to begin but we and our babies will all be okay.

SouthwestSis · 28/02/2022 18:27

Sorry to hear you're finding this week tricky OP, I also had some anxiety issues but was so last minute with my preparations that I didn't want my LO to come before the due date!

Can you focus on keeping yourself busy with bath cooking, house cleaning, walks as you're able?
Can you let friends and family know you're finding this week tricky so you can schedule in some walks, coffees, phone calls?
Keeping busy helps, and envisaging your healthy labour and delivery with hopefully a natural start.

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