Calm me down ?

[thunderonlyhappenswhenits]

I'm 8 weeks today. I've got my first scan at 1 and I'm shitting myself.
I had a mmc in November so last time I had a scan it was bad news. After going back and forth for weeks not knowing what was happening !
The last 2/3 days I've been quite crampy, last night after a wee I could've swore I saw some dark discharge in the toilet (but can't be sure as it was going round the bend)
So I've been religiously checking ever since and nothing so far. But today I've got lower back pain, it's on my right side so don't know if it's more hip related. Anyway I've convinced myself it's going to be bad news ! I've been waiting for 4 weeks for this day and I feel like it's all over before I get there.

How likely is it that I've had another mmc?
Last time I blamed it on all the extra progesterone I was on but I'm not on anything this time, so I'd have thought my body would've recognised if anything was going wrong

Hoping things go well for you today! I'd say don't worry too much about cramping if it's mild. I had cramping for a while early in my pregnancy and also your body is changing rapidly at that stage so aches and pains are fairly common as your body adjusts. I know its easier said than done but try and relax and take it as it comes. Fingers crossed for you all goes well

My first pregnancy was a blighted ovum found at a scan at 7 weeks. Once you've had a mmc it's inevitable to be terrified it will happen again. We need to remind ourselves that statistically, most women who have a mmc, carry on to have healthy pregnancies afterwards. I am currently part of that statistic and 25 weeks so far. I remember twinging at every little cramo or weird feeling in my stomach during the first 12 weeks. It's absolutely normal as everything is stretching and accommodating to the new pregnancy. I am crossing all my fingers that it will be good news for you today.

Hope all will be ok. I had cramps throughout, like period pain, occasionally quite bad.
I would have thought of you passed something, there would have been some kind of evidence when you wiped. Try not to worry

Thank you everybody. I just needed someone who understands. I tried to talk to my partner about it and he hasn't been supportive at all, he said I'm ruining it and that he can't do this again. I've tried to explain I'm just scared because of what I went through before but he just doesn't get it? Thinks I should be all skipping and positive, I've tried so so hard this time to think differently and I have done well so far but today I've just had a major wobble. Sat upstairs crying atm

He has apologised now, he just doesn't want to see me like that again. I don't want to see me like that again ! It's just so scary I wish I could just shut all them fears away

Everything will be fine. I'm in the same position as you and just have to stay strong and positive xxx

Stay positive - I am sure all will be ok. Try and do something nice before your scan - maybe a walk outside to try and take your mind off it (easier said than done I know) xx

I've calmed down abit now. Still anxious but trying to just think differently about it, if it's bad news there's nothing I can do about it either way.
I wish the first few weeks wasn't so anxiety inducing it's just so cruel

I was in your position 6 years agoq (pregnant again after MMC) and was so so terrified before every scan. I paid for numerous private scans in first and second trimester. The only thing I tried to remind myself was that worrying wouldn't change anything and as one midwife put it 'if a baby is there to stay its there to stay'. Which isn't maybe very helpful but actually helped me let go of some worry and accept I had no control. I really hope your scan goes well, I had 2 successful pregnancies after my MMC but I well remember the anxiety. Best of luck to you. X

How did it yo OP?? X

Relieved and over the bloody moon to say saw baby with a heartbeat! I cried my eyes out 😭😭

So happy for you! Glad baby is doing well. Wishing you a healthy pregnancy 🥰

Just wanted to comment to say congratulations and thank goodness you saw the heartbeat @thunderonlyhappenswhenits ❤️ I also had a mc in November and have just found out I'm pregnant again, so this is a lovely positive thread to read. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy x

Thank you ladies and congrats @Cruz86 I've honestly sent myself barmy this morning, I was in a right state.
Just a quick question is 15.30mm crl right for 8 weeks ? They dated me as 7+6 but then on my report put 8 weeks, I know it's only a day though

I can imagine @thunderonlyhappenswhenits! I've got an early scan on the 7th and I know I'll be so so anxious as the day gets nearer. It's such a difficult thing to go through when you've experienced a loss 😞 That crl sounds perfect! X

@Cruz86 I'm glad there are people who understand, even though I wish they didn't if you know what I mean, no1 wants to be in that club!
It's so hard to explain the anxiety it just eats away. I just know I will start worrying again as it's inevitable isn't it, but I will look at my little pic I got and hopefully that'll make me feel better.
Good luck for your scan, will you come back and update ?