How did you know your family was complete

[springbaby22]

Just wondering when you all knew you were done with having children?

I wish I felt done. I’ve got 3, my head says no more but my heart (uterus) says one more.
DH says he’ll go with whatever I want, I wish he would say no more!!
Probably going to stick but don’t think I’ll ever feel ‘done’

When I wasn’t interested if someone announced a pregnancy or birth.

I also wasn’t interested in holding someone else’s baby.

When I thought of a baby or looked at one, I automatically thought hard work!

Environment and spiralling costs of living mean I won't be considering more than 2, but am feeling very content with number 1 now.

Currently 30 weeks with baby #3 and I am 100% I dont want to go through pregnancy again lol it is hard work, im in pain, got gestational diabetes, aneamic and have pelvic girdle pain. Feel like I'm falling apart 🤣 I'm 40 and have dd5 and ds2. I'm quite happy to say this is the last!

I wanted 5, ex DH was done after 3...I wasn't. We ended up divorcing, I met someone else (current DH) who had 2 kids but had also had the snip. I kinda got my 5...still didn't feel done so DH has had a vasectomy reversal just 5 weeks ago. If we manage to fall pregnant it'll ne my last due to our age...if we don't I think I'll always feel a little sad and not having another but grateful for all I do have

I'd love a third, but we're getting on, money would be super super tight etc etc. so I don't feel done, but I have to be. Very lucky to have two healthy children though. So I'm really not complaining.

Currently 17 weeks with dc3. I would love 4 (as it stands we’ll have twins plus one and I worry the youngest one will get left out) but that would be 4 c sections which is risky and I’ve had pre eclampsia twice now.

I feel a bit sad every time I get rid of DS clothes/moses basket etc (he's just under 1). But also relief. He was number 2, and I am done. A tiny bit of my heart isn't, but I have two hands and I think I can still have some me time and time for both of them. I feel like three would submerge "me". I feel like I can have life balance and a career with two, but three would just tip it into permanent laundry.

I really expected to feel "done" as soon as DC2 popped out, it was a truly horrendous pregnancy, I was in hospital for months and then in a wheelchair in constant awful pain and I got through every day by thinking I never had to do it again. But the second I had him I knew I wanted another. Took me years & years to persuade DH who was against it but now 32 weeks with no. 3 (at 41). So thrilled to be pregnant, and surprisingly has been a better pregnancy in every way than either of the earlier ones even though I am a lot older. If I were younger and DH were open to it, I would honestly do it again I think and make it two groups of two! (But ask me again when I'm in the midst of nappies and sleepless nights . . .) Career-wise it has been so much less stressful at this age than in early 30s.

When I had my first baby and the postnatal experience was absolutely horrendous. I spent a lot of time regretting having her at all. So I told myself I didn't have to do it again if I didn't want to, as a coping tactic, expecting I would change my mind in time. And I just didn't. Instead I grew more and more certain that one was enough and gave me and DH a good balance in our lives and we can give her a really good life too. My biggest fear about it all is that ill forget how awful it was, do it again, and then have really f'd my life up.

I always thought 4 would be great. Had second at 35, pre eclampsia in last few weeks of pregnancy. Hospital kept me in after the birth of fortunately healthy baby for days as deemed me too ill to go home. On discharging me they gently said they didn’t think advisable to have any more. They were right, it took me a year to feel properly well again and I knew then I was done. I also didn’t have the energy, much harder sleepless nights at 35 than 32 when I had my first!

@kalidasa

I really expected to feel "done" as soon as DC2 popped out, it was a truly horrendous pregnancy, I was in hospital for months and then in a wheelchair in constant awful pain and I got through every day by thinking I never had to do it again. But the second I had him I knew I wanted another. Took me years & years to persuade DH who was against it but now 32 weeks with no. 3 (at 41). So thrilled to be pregnant, and surprisingly has been a better pregnancy in every way than either of the earlier ones even though I am a lot older. If I were younger and DH were open to it, I would honestly do it again I think and make it two groups of two! (But ask me again when I'm in the midst of nappies and sleepless nights . . .) Career-wise it has been so much less stressful at this age than in early 30s.

Aww how old are yours and what do you have? I know what you mean about 2 groups of 2s. I'm 37 weeks and not sure if it's age related (late 30s) or just this stage of gestation but don't remember being this tired with other 2. I suppose a lot of it has to do with taking care of our bodies too...

Thanks @maama0f3 my older two are 9 and 7 -- both boys and so is the baby! I have just felt so much better in this pregnancy than with the earlier two, it's the only pregnancy I have actually enjoyed, but there's no way on earth DH would agree to another, and in any case I'd really be pushing my luck. I turn 42 next month!

I feel done! Got my body back and youngest is 4 so not so demanding but dh wants one more, if it happens it happens but after 2 years it hasn't and at 38 I'm not going to be sad if it doesn't happen but if it does that's definitely the last.

@mnetting

I feel done! Got my body back and youngest is 4 so not so demanding but dh wants one more, if it happens it happens but after 2 years it hasn't and at 38 I'm not going to be sad if it doesn't happen but if it does that's definitely the last.

How many do you have? 38 is still young right?

3 altogether one at 17 another at 32 and last one at 34.