Can arguing cause miscarriage ?

[firsttimemum1xxx]

I'm really worried, my hormones are all over the place and I've been so short tempered, last night me and my boyfriend had a massive argument and I've been cramping since, I've got right hand side shooting pains, is this something to be worried about ? I'm so annoyed at myself and sad at the thought I could have harmed my baby, I'm 9 weeks, help please 😓

Hey, although raised cortisone can cause harm if it's at a sustained level (think weeks and months) one incident won't make any difference. It's so stressful I know. I keep worrying that my stress will harm baby and that's a vicious cycle as then I get really upset and more stressed.

It's a hard time. Can you put the fight behind you and do some self care things? Pregnancy anxiety is the worst

I’m sure you will be fine. Cramping in early pregnancy is normal on and off and things grow. I think a bereavement or a huge shock could cause damage but not an argument with your boyfriend.

No, you'll be absolutely fine. Was it

Oops, posted too fast! Was it you the other day with the burger lovely? Have you spoken to your midwife or GP about your anxiety?

This heightened constant level of anxiety and stress is potentially more harmful than any of these minor things are, if you don't manage to let it go.

Sorry, I just went back and saw it wasn't you. Same first letter of your username! My bad xx

Thank you everyone for the reassurance ♥️

@ImInStealthMode it wasn't me but I also think I'm going to have to speak to someone about this anxiety I have, I've never really been an overly anxious person but since being pregnant I've been through the roof, if you see on here I'm constantly asking things I'm obsessing over things and I can't stop 😓 my mums said I really need to stop aswell but I honestly can't xx

I don't know if this is the case for you op but my pregnancy anxiety was always worse when I was reading stuff on the internet about pregnancy things 'going wrong'. Yes you need to be informed about the essential/important bits but too much info is info overload and if you go digging for bad things related to pregnancy you'll always find them but knowing about them isn't going to make you any more prepared - it's just going to leave you more anxious. Avoid if you can.

I felt exactly like you did OP, it’s a very anxious time. I felt much better after 12 week scan - not long to go.
Also I had loads of aches and pains - it’s just your uterus growing and stretching.

@firsttimemum1xxx try not to worry but it’s normal to be so anxious during pregnancy. You have a little life growing in there that you are soley responsible for, it’s normal to worry all of the time but try and relax and just think your body is designed to go this, to get pregnant and grow a baby and deliver the baby. Just keep telling yourself that. The first 12 weeks are the most worrying time for most people and after that 12 week scan most people relax a little so not too much longer for you. You could always book a private scan to ease your mind a little I book them quite often I just enjoy them

@cherrytopcake yes this is exactly me. I've become obsessed constantly googling things like all day every day and it's sending me through the roof, I know I should just not do it but a can't help myself at all you know, I've honestly become obsessed. I really need to try and stop x

@JemimaTiggywinkle thank you 🥲 I know my 12 week is on 18th of March so fingers crossed all is still well, I've seen baby heartbeat and it was nice and strong I just can't get the worry out my head and the complete guilt of me going crazy lastnight; my hormones are just everywhere x

@Nikki037297 very true, thank you for this ♥️ I actually had a private scan yesterday and seen wee babies heartbeat the women said was lovely and strong but I've just really worried myself after my poor show last night I feel so guilty thinking I've done something to them. I've had no bleeding it was just cramping but I've just put 2 and 2 together and came up with the worst scenario xx