Pregnant and mmc

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Luckytobeamummy · 26/02/2022 11:12

Hi all. I've recently found out I'm pregnant but I'm absolutely petrified as I've had 10mmc's with no explanation why.
I'm roughly around 6 weeks pregnant, I've got extremely sore boobs and constantly urinating!

Im too scared to have sex or even tell the doctor in pregnant because I don't want to jinx myself.. I already have 4 children one was premature @28 weeks,
Is there anyway I can relax and not be so scared! I really want this baby but I'm just waiting to miscarry again! Is having sore boobs a good sign? And should I go to the doctors and tell them! I don't no what to do...
Emma x

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Cakecakecheese · 26/02/2022 17:50

I would go to the doctor as they might be able to prescribe you progesterone or clexane or something.

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Luckytobeamummy · 26/02/2022 18:17

Thank you.. I'm just so scared of it happening again! Any slight cramp or ache I'm over the top with it... I can't help feel so negative all the time... I will get to the doctors but not sure when. Xx

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Luckytobeamummy · 01/03/2022 14:32

Well I rang the doctor up this morning and let's just say what a waste of time.. I now have to self refer myself to a midwife! Even though I explained I'm scared about miscarring again! I would of liked had the opportunity to explain my situation to the doctor and hopefully get some kind of medication to help prevent it happing again. But nope... wasn't even given the opportunity to ask! So now I've had to self refer myself so now it's a waiting game to be contacted back.

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surprised12 · 01/03/2022 15:23

@Luckytobeamummy

Hello! Firstly, I'm sorry about your previous loss! It's devastating! I had the same experience last year, and thought when I fell pregnant again I would get more support or at least some understanding from the NHS. Nope. I thought even extra care at the beginning in terms of appointments or a midwife appointment about the loss. I'm 15 weeks now, have paid for 3 private scans to reassure myself and have had 1 NHS scan. I have had normal booking In appointment with the midwife but she really didn't seem interested in previous loss - and what didn't help me at all was at the end of the appointment she said 'good luck, and I really hope you stay pregnant to see you again at 16 weeks' - I mean while that's nice, it's not what you want to hear at your most anxious time.

I was so scared in the beginning, but I've eased off a lot now - the scans have been worth the money.

What else has helped me is thinking about this pregnancy being completely different to the last one.

I hope you manage to relax and would recommend a private scan if you think that will help x x

Butterscotchbaby · 01/03/2022 16:53

You have had 10 missed miscarriages? Have you had any investigations into why that has happened? :( I'm so sorry for your losses ! I had 1 MMC last summer and am currently 6 weeks pregnant and I know how anxious I am so I cant imagine how you are feeling! xx

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Luckytobeamummy · 01/03/2022 18:16

I've been looking into the private scans but I'm so scared of having vaginal scans ! I won't even have sex because I am not risking anything!
No I've never had an investigation as to why I keep losing, I also had a missed miscarriage and I had to go onto hospital for it all to get taken out (sorry I don't remember the correct term for it) but they said they'll do like an autopsy test thing and everything came back normal! I did have an appointment to have an investigation but when o turned up for the appointment the doctor was off ill and didn't notify me and he never rearrange and to be honest I was that annoyed with them I didn't even chase it up as it had taken me over 2 years to get the appointment for them not even be bothered to notify me he wasn't it! But that's my next do to on my list is finally try and get some answers.

I don't know if I can wait for until I'm 12 weeks for a scan so I might have a look into this private scanning.
It's so frustrating ... but each day I don't start bleeding is a blessing so I'm taking each day as it comes up I'm so paranoid it's not going to be.. xxx

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