Just need some sensible advice

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I'm 7+1 today. This is a total suprise pregnancy, after 7 years ttc, clomid, ivf and a mmc in November I found myself naturally pregnant ! I promised myself this time I wouldn't freak out, worrying constantly, googling everything and testing all the time. I've done quite well so far, I've been a lot more postive than I was last time. I've done three tests, one frer which was my initial postive and two cb digis since then which both came back 3+.

I've got a scan booked in for Sunday and this morning I've woken up full of anxiety and need a talking too. Obviously I'm scared. But I'm considering ordering more tests and I so don't want to do it !! I feel like I need to reassure myself before I go for the scan ! I promised myself I wouldn't get like this, I don't know if hormones are doing it!
I've been having symptoms, occasional waves of nausea, aversion to the smell of grease (ergh) and my boobs seem to be growing a little. So why do I feel the need to test again ?!?!

It’s so natural, especially after everything you’ve been through bless you. My advice is to distract yourself, you need to (as crazy as it is) almost forget your pregnant. It stops you counting the days and wanting confirmation constantly. Keep yourself busy busy busy, have another goal that will take up a lot of your mind right now if you can. It’s really difficult but time will pass so fast soon enough.

Major congratulations also! I hope everything goes well.

Hi I promised myself I wouldn't be like this with my second and third baby I was exactly the same they are both here and healthy please reassure yourself this is just anxiety xx

And hormones for sure, congratulations xxx

Congratulations!
This is the most anxious time you'll ever have it look what your amazing body has done so far after all this time you've conceived naturally.
I've been through this anxious stage and everyone kept telling me the same 'there's no point testing what will be will be' etc, but you know what, testing was all that made me feel better, I bought a load of ICs and tested every other day for the first couple of months. Had a couple of scans and then finally I relaxed. I'm 23 weeks now and can feel movement every day, I haven't tested for aaaages. So sometimes leaning into it isn't the worst thing, it certainly helped me get through. Good luck x

Thank you for the replies.
I've really tried to see this pregnancy as meant to be, especially after all we've been through to get here, I've had to have that belief ! But I do find myself having a wobble every so often, no matter how hard I try to stay positive.
I appreciate for some women testing really helps, but for me it isn't helping. I find relief for about 5 days then the anxiety hits again, until I test again. It's like a vicious circle that I want to break.
I'm trying to listen to my body but because of what happened last time it's forever tainted the experience 😔 I just wish my brain would let me embrace this and stop worrying.
Sunday can't come quick enough now.

I'm currently 15 weeks pregnant from my 3rd IVF transfer following an MMC and a chemical pregnancy. The wait to my first scan at 7+4 was horrendous. I panicked over every little thing. I did stop testing after I got a 3+ on a digital as I didn't want to add any more anxiety. There was some relief after that scan but then I panicked up to my 12 week scan. I was alright for a while but I have a scan booked for next Tuesday and the anxiety is starting to creep in.

Sorry this isn't massively helpful is it? But I suppose the point is you're not alone and I understand how you feel. Distracting myself has helped a bit. My Netflix subscription has really been used recently!

@Cakecakecheese I know the feeling, the wait for my first scan at the clinic was awful, I was crying in the waiting room, I think deep down I knew it was bad news. I'm glad everything is going well for you. Ivf is so tough isn't it.

My booking in appointment got cancelled this morning it was supposed to be next Monday, then I get a phonecall this afternoon to do it over the phone instead. All felt really real all of a sudden, feels abit early talking about it all ?! Just want Sunday to be here now

Congratulations!

It's really normal, it's just the anxiety, you'll see after the scan your mind will find new ''reasons' to worry. Good luck x

I know it's the anxiety sending me crazy. I've had to talk myself out of going to the shop this morning. I'm so annoyed with myself because I promised myself I wouldn't go down this slope, and to be honest I've done well not to scrutinise everything. Up until now that is. I think knowing the scan is so close yet feels so far away is making it worse. I've just told myself what is the bloody point doing another test when I have a scan Sunday and I'll get my answer then anyway !
I feel so stupid

You're not stupid and you have done really well by not buying a test. I know the days are dragging, honestly I swear time goes backwards when you're waiting for a scan! You can do it.

There is basically nothing you can do other than try to allow for the fact that this is going to be really hard on you, and give yourself some grace. Your body is doing something amazing - but your brain is too. You're surviving right now. I found that first 11 weeks before my scan almost unbearable. Basically just had to focus on going to therapy, walking as much as possible and waiting. I really hope the next few weeks pass calmly and happily for you. I found that once I was feeling regular movement I felt like an entirely different - much happier - person.