Me and my partner have been together nearly four years, he’s 30 and I’m 27. This was my first pregnancy and I was shocked to find out I was pregnant, we don’t live together so it wasn’t an ideal situation. He did not want the baby but I was partially on the fence, I found out I’d had a missed miscarriage on the 14th Feb. I was hysterical and called my mum who came home straight away to comfort me, my boyfriend calls me 2 hours later (I’m clearly upset and have been texting him in this time) and he asked me why I was upset. He then said did I want him to come to the hospital with me and if so he’d have to see if he could get the afternoon off of work. My mum was appalled with this, I then found out I’d have to come back another day for the medical management. He said he didn’t want to take the piss and keep asking for time off work so he’d pick me up after, not caring whether I went alone. Thankfully my sister came with me and my mum met me after work, he doesn’t actually seem to care. The tablets did not work and when I went to tell him this I miss typed a message to him and he asked me yesterday is it done yet? Not how do you feel or any concern for what my body and mind are going through.
He didn’t ask what it means for me that it’s not happened and didn’t ask about the phone call I had with hospital today.
I was going to his today and he didn’t come to pick me up, despite the fact that I could still have the miscarriage pass at any point. I told him I have to go to the hospital this week for surgery and he didn’t really say anything. I don’t know if I’m just overreacting because I’m hormonal and emotional but I’m very angry, is this behaviour normal for a guy in this situation?
I just want to have a good at him and he’ll him how insensitive he is, but he won’t see that he’s done anything wrong. And I’m trying not to break down before I have the surgery.