Pregnancy after miscarriages

[Worriedandconfused23]

Posting here as I posted in conception and got nothing, think it was the wrong section.

I'm 5 weeks pregnant (I think- weird periods!).

In the past I had 3 mc and then successful pregnancy which resulted in my beautiful child. I know I'm very lucky.

Last week I discovered I was pregnant and I promised myself this pregnancy would be different, that I wouldn't spend it anxiously checking myself every 5 minutes, peeing on sticks and being terrified to tell anyone just in case. Yet here I am. I swing from feeling nauseous and thanking God that I have symptoms to feeling nothing at all. I don't think I've mentally accepted it yet despite multiple clear blues, line progression, you name it. Time is passing so slowly.

I've had to tell my manager I'm pregnant due to my line of work but in all honestly I'm terrified as multiple colleagues and my sister are pregnant. I can't cope if I lose this one and have to watch them all have their babies while I don't have mine.

I know I'm incredibly lucky to have one child, some people never get there. But I feel so robbed of this experience and so utterly helpless.

Please has anyone had a history like mine then gone on to have another successful pregnancy ? I'm praying my one child wasn't a fluke and that this little apple seed is here to stay.

It's so hard OP. I'm 13 weeks with baby number 2, pregnancy number 5. And honestly what's helped me relax is completely accepting that whatever happens it's out of my control. I didn't do anything differently with my daughter than the babies I lost. It wasn't my fault I lost them. I'm still anxious but it helps a lot to surrender control.

Wishing you lots of luck and a healthy 9 months.

Thank you @Wisemensay, sorry if it is insensitive to ask but would you mind saying if this is your first pregnancy since your successful birth?

I am trying to get my head round the fact its all out of my control and stop googling like a mad woman. I know what will be will be. I have booked a private scan if I make it to 7 weeks, my epau won't scan me this time round as I have had a successful pregnancy since the mcs. Google doesn't seem particularly helpful for telling you the chances of a second successful pregnancy. I know I need to put the phone down and stop searching. Easier said than done isn't it.

It's so hard, I'm 11 weeks pregnant and on 6th pregnancy- however this will (hopefully) be my 3rd baby!

I had my daughter in 2019, then had 3 miscarriages in a row, then had my son in 2021 (new years day), now pregnant again since having him.

I am terrified every day! I definitely regularly think the worst but as each day passes I find myself thinking more positively.....until a scan comes up and then I feel terrified again haha

Congratulations and I hope its a healthy pregnancy for you!

Thank you @EllieJai44 congratulations on your pregnancy, I'm glad it's going well so far for you. Yes it's incredibly hard. I'm hoping once I have a scan at 7 weeks I'll calm slightly even though I know realistically ill still be on edge 🙈 the next two weeks (never mind 35!) is going to be very long!

Best of luck. Know exactly how you feel. Currently 27+3 in my 7th pregnancy (no babies yet) so have an idea of what it feels like to experience pregnancy following loss.

Just go with your instincts and see your GP/111 any concerns asap - don’t leave things and believe in yourself. You have got this

@RainbowTime

Best of luck. Know exactly how you feel. Currently 27+3 in my 7th pregnancy (no babies yet) so have an idea of what it feels like to experience pregnancy following loss.

Just go with your instincts and see your GP/111 any concerns asap - don’t leave things and believe in yourself. You have got this

@RainbowTime Did you do anything different this time? I'm on three MC in the past 16 months. Just TTC right now. Hoping you and the OP have something that made a difference.

@Rtmhwales yes - changed consultants and under prof Quenby at Tommys… used luteal phase progesterone then higher dose to 12weeks post positive test… then until 6 weeks postnatally - clexane… aspirin. Last consultant did nothing with the same results over and over.

@Rtmhwales best of luck.

Sorry @Rtmhwales I didn't do anything differently. We have no issues getting pregnant but staying pregnancy was another matter....

We had tests after our first mc as there were some genetic issues and they basically said we just had bad luck, all was well otherwise... we were meant to be seeing someone with our 4th (successful pregnancy) but for various reasons by the time we saw the consultant he was happy we were out of the "danger stage". I asked if I could see someone earlier this pregnancy but they've said because I have had a successful pregnancy I can't, I'm hoping it was just pure luck.

Fingers crossed and luck to all of us, hoping we will all soon be holding our new babies :-)

@Worriedandconfused23

Here’s to hoping!

No advice OP, but fingers crossed for you.

I had 5 miscarriages before having my son who was born in 2021. Gearing myself up to try for no.2 soon.

@babyjellyfish that's exactly how we felt, like trying for a second was falling into this world of the unknown again. I know it will be worth it but it doesn't make it easy. I hope it all goes successfully for you, you've had more than your share of heart ache x

Yes it's pretty daunting to think about trying again.

But last time I found an amazing doctor (I'm not in the UK) and had some treatment which I'm hoping is what worked. I'm planning to go back to him soon to discuss no.2, so it doesn't feel like we are going right back to square one. And at least I have proof my body can carry a pregnancy to term now!

The first trimester is so long when you have a history of miscarriage, isn't it?

Oh that sounds very reassuring :) All the best to you :-)

Yes never ending !