Pregnancy after miscarriage is.....

[EllieJai44]

Pregnancy after miscarriage is checking your knickers or TP every bathroom trip.

Pregnancy after miscarriage is wearing only light coloured knickers so you can see any sign of bleeding.

Pregnancy after miscarriage is testing a tonne to make sure those lines get darker.

Pregnancy after miscarriage is worrying about every little twinge or cramp.

Pregnancy after miscarriage is waiting for the first weeks to pass but they are going so slowly.

Pregnancy after miscarriage is spending every day wondering if everything is okay and it taking over every thought.

Pregnancy after miscarriage is not allowing yourself to be happy or even look at baby items.

Pregnancy after miscarriage seems lonely and you think people will think you're crazy.....but you're not alone, there are thousands of women in the same boat! So I'd like to start this thread as a honest, no judgement area for your worries in your pregnancy....wether you're 4 weeks or 40 weeks, you know the whole Pregnancy will be spent wondering when it will go wrong!

Post away ladies!

This thread is spot on. I had two miscarriages last year in April and July, my july baby should've been due this week 💔.

Im now 18weeks and still suffer daily with the horrible thought's that something is going to go wrong, especially because i can't feel baby move much because i have an anterior placenta. But i hold onto hope and pray that we reach our due date safely.

Us women are made of tough stuff and carry on no matter how hard it is. We don't give ourselves enough credit for everything we go through. We are amazing 💪🏻🙌🏻💞. Xx

@SunAndSea37 it's two weeks today! But I have another scan at my early pregnancy unit on Tuesday!

@EllieJai44 ooooh that’s great but can imagine you must be feeling so nervous.

I’m actually at my EPU right now getting a blood test to check all my levels are doing ok. They’ve been wonderful so far, really listening and hands on. Didn’t stop me doing another CB this morning just to check!

@MrsCtobe91 congrats on your 18 week milestone and sending lots of positive thoughts. You’re so right, we just crack on going to work, keeping the show on the road etc with all this going on inside our minds and bodies ❤️ Amazing strength

If my first pragnancy hadn't resulted in miscarriage, today would have been my due date, so this is on my mind a bit.

Pregnancy after miscarriage, for me, was trying to stay blank and unemotional for the first 12 weeks, trying not to think about it, hoping no-one noticed or asked. It has become easier - I'm now 17 weeks and more relaxed.

Yes to all of this.

I had many miscarriages before my successful pregnancy and am now gearing myself up ready to go into battle again.

I got my positive result this week, I can’t stop crying, Googling, worrying, looking ahead to birth and beyond then right back to crying. I’ve lost 2 little angels and I don’t think my heart could take a 3rd 🤍

How long did you guys wait to start trying again?? I've just had a MMC and so heartbroken just want to be pregnant again but was told to wait 2 cycles. Xx

Hi @Simone22 same as me, found out Monday, absolute bag of nerves after two losses. My advice is distract yourself as much as poss, that seems to be working well for me so far.

@mummyofrb I was only told to wait one for dating reasons but honestly I didn't feel ready before 2, I like you so wanted to be pregnant again but just needed a break. Sending hugs.

Testing 6 times a day just to make sure.
Wiping and studying the tissue.

I'm
A nervous wreck at 4 weeks.

@SunAndSea37 thank you, I know what you mean, I try to keep busy working and looking after my 3 year old keeps me going. This time for me is the final try though I think that’s making me even more emotional. I don’t even know how I would recover again to be honest. Do you have a reassurance booked in?
@mummyofrb I am so so sorry love, it’s just awful 🤍for me, I lost my baby in Feb last year, Valentine’s Day actually… I waited 2 cycles then fell again straight away, I lost that one too so I gave myself a good few months break. I was completely broken. Now here I am 4 weeks in and terrified x

@mummyofrb I'm so sorry to hear this. Ive had 4 MCs and it's heartbreaking. I didn't even wait a cycle last mc as decided time was running out. I'm so glad I didn't wait as I'm now 18 weeks and everything looks good ☺️ I'd say try again if you feel mentally ready to do so. I'd had a lot of therapy across all of the MCs, so was in a good headspace to try xx

@Rachae aw thankyou so much for your message it's so positive to hear these stories, I think I will feel ready soon, not sure about my partner after seeing what I've been through - how did yours cope? Xx

@Simone22 thankyou so much for your reply, I also have a 3 year old so was shock for me after last time was so straightforward. Sending you lots of good luck for this time💕

@mummyofrb it's been a 3 year journey for us, so I made sure we kept communicating and talking about everything. It's brought us even closer to be honest.. we also went though 3 rounds of IVF during that time and across the MCs, as a way of trying to combat them that way. (No IVF round worked - only natural pregnancies) He attended counselling with me sometimes too. It's about getting your head around the embryo stage (up to 10 weeks) and we found it really helpful not to consider it as a baby. Most MCs are down to the embryo quality or chromosome mismatch and knowing this helped us to process it - rather than imagine we've lost a real baby. Also embryos are made with both sperm and egg and in most cases, you'll never know where the fault lies, so we never blamed each other and this is how we coped - bad luck for most of the time xxx

@Rachae I think that's why I've been so devastated the logical part of my brain knows it wasn't viable, but for 12 weeks I'd been falling in love with a baby and have been so desperate to give my daughter a sibling. I feel like my body let me down! I spoke to my partner yesterday he wants to wait recommended amount of time (dr said 2 cycles so back to normal for dating) before trying again which I understand, I'm probably not in right head space right now to start trying straight away I just want back what I feel I've lost! Xx

Pregnancy after miscarriage - would I ever be ready for it?

Will my bloods and placenta results show anything?

It is wondering why time isn't passing and when the follow up with the consultant ever come?
And if it comes, it's the fear what it'll reveal.
(Am I sick? Why my body failed to carry my baby?)

It is waiting for green light to try again or be told better not to try again.

It's a fear that it'll happen again.

It's the question: how would o bear it?

Pregnancy after miscarriage is being brave. It's a beautiful proof that nature gave us mother's instinct that make us want to have babies against medical advice, fear and beat all odds.

Fingers crossed for all new pregnancies.

I pray to God to be able to let me be pregnant again soon (as soon as I'll get to know what went wrong with my June late miscarriage at 18 weeks).

Lots of love and baby dust 💗...

By the way, for me scans and heartbeat checks mean absolutely nothing now.

At 12 weeks it was all perfect. At 16 weeks the heartbeat was strong and beautiful (thank God I recorded it), evne the flutters I felt meant nothing... and 2 weeks later (18 weeks) my baby came out of me without any warning sings...

If I ever get pregnant again, nothing will reassure me....nothing....

Had a mmc in January and just found out im 4 weeks pregnant im terrified

I had MC just in October and spotted 2 days the day of the D&c and the next day and started intercourse after ., I was suppose to get on shots in two wks but I had already ovulated and had sex and then went and got on shots but me n my bd started just feeling symptoms this month in Dec and I still haven’t seen my period but I tested twice days apart and both negative Did I tested too early or what? I’m also always testing early nd finding out a month later I’m pregnant

And also have Mille leaking out my breast now

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Pregnancy after miscarriage is counting the other pregnancy announcements. When there are another 2, expect the bleeding to start because I am always that 1:3.

It’s wearing black knickers because I can’t bear to see blood again.

Its trying to not obsessively check the calendar to count weeks, check dates because if I don’t look at due dates then I won’t have a day to be heartbroken about on top of everything else I’m heartbroken about.

pregnancy after miscarriage is checking the expiration dates on the co codamol from my last miscarriage to see if they will be ok to use when it all starts again.

Pregnancy after multiple miscarriage is seeing the positive pregnancy test and thinking” here we go again” not a single trace of joy.

Pregnancy after miscarriage is just an awful waiting game. Which lasts many long weeks.

Pregnancy after multiple miscarriages is the false hope that the multiple miscarriage clinic offers you. It’s all just made up, experimental shite. They know marginally more than Google and cannot offer a single concrete answer or solution.

Wow, that turned into quite a rant!

Pregnancy after miscarriage means that scans are to be dreaded, are a form of psychological torture and deliver bad news or seemingly good news that actually means fuck all because I know when I go back for another, it will all be over.

Because seeing what looks like a heart beat is actually one of my own blood vessels pulsating on screen and not in fact a heart flickering away. But is wrongly identified as a heart beating baby.

So yeah, scans mean absolutely fuck all now.

Trailing up to EPAU to have bloods done repeatedly to check levels also means fuck all and I declined having them done during miscarriage number 3 or 4.
In the end, it was pointless, just told me what I already knew, I was miscarrying and didn’t need to trail up there, walk through the post natal ward to get to the treatment room listening to the new babies crying while loosing yet another one of mine.

Pregnancy after miscarriage means you no longer trust your body. Pregnancy symptoms mean nothing. Nausea, sore boobs, heightened smell means absolutely nothing. I had all of these during every miscarriage. No reassurance there at all.

pregnancy after miscarriage is painful, lonely and completely out of anyones control. It’s up to nature, it’s luck of the draw and hard as it is, happens for a physiological reason.

One time, just one time you get lucky, everything lines up and a miracle occurs.
THAT pregnancy is magical. It’s as scary as fuck but day by day nothing happens. When nothing happens & you climb into bed at night knowing another day has gone by with nothing happening, I can sleep ready for the next day.
Then scan after scan looks good, then movement starts, then the weeks pass and…. Nothing!
Then you can believe and eventually, he is in your arms, all alive and breathing and beautiful and mine to take home. Amazing. Absolutely amazing.