Medical management or D&C

[MaybeSometime]

Hello

Looking for some advice or reassurance but for DH not me! And sorry this maybe a bit of a long read.

So recently found out I had a MMC. I was nearly 10 weeks but baby only measured 6. I've waited it out but nothing is happening so back up to EPU tmw to discuss options.

My DH really wants me to have a D&C which I've had in previous losses. I don't want to because I always felt it took my body ages to fully recover from D&C.

I would much rather have medical management but the reason DH is nervous is due to my first loss. It was a spontaneous miscarriage at 11 weeks and sorry if this is TMI. I ended up bleeding very heavily and had to be kept in hospital. They put me on medical management to hurry everything along so they could control the bleeding. However, when I passed, I went into cervical shock and fell very, very ill and had to have emergency treatment. Its super rare I think.

We live about 45 mins from the hosp and DH is terrified that if it happens again, we won't have time to get there. My point is that it was very different that time, the baby was 11 weeks but this wee bean is tiny so very unlikely the same thing will happen again.

How can I reassure him? Or should I just have the D&C?

I know I'm sounding super practical here but I'm not - I'm heartbroken like we all are when it happens but just trying to work out the best thing to do.

Thanks in advance x

Very sorry for your losses.

If it was me in your shoes, I would go for a D&C.
Think of it this way, would you rather a longer recovery than falling very poorly again?

I've had one before and for me it meant it was over with and I could focus on myself.

@Violetmo0n thanks for the reply. And very sorry for your loss too

I think you are right. Now I see it all written down makes sense to go for the surgical option. Guess I just wanted a more 'natural' experience this time. But need to be sensible and not fair on DH either.

Thank you xx

I had an erpc. I was in and out of hospital in five hours and next to know bleeding.

No!

Thanks @wingingit33.
Sorry for your loss xx

I would 100% go for a D&C, our experience of 2 medical management's (including one very similar to your current situation) was horrendous and required overnight stays for bleeding/pain/sickness 😢

So sorry for your loss and having to make a decision between, essentially, two equally shit scenarios

@JustAnother30Something thanks. And so sorry you had to go through this as well. You're right it's a crappy situation all round.
But think D&C is best of a bad bunch x

Hey @MaybeSometime I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️ I had a MMC almost 3 years ago now at almost 12 weeks and I was scheduled for a D&C but my body started miscarrying on its own. I bled heavily and was in agony. I ended up needing a d&c anyway and it was only once I had this I started to feel any better. I also had medical management for an ectopic pregnancy caught very early which caused a miscarriage (at 7 weeks). Not to scare you but the Bleeding from the MC and MC from ectopic meds haunts me and my recovery from D&C personally was much easier than recovery after MC and less emotionally painful to go through as you don't have to see everything. If I was in your situation I would do the D&C without a second thought. X

What's the difference between d&c and erpc? I had the latter and the recovery was instant. As a happier ending, I'm now 5 days away from a csection. Stay positive op

Sorry for your loss ...

Could you have a supervised medical management in hospital? Just so that they can keep and eye on you if you have complications again?

Same thing, ERPC is the new name