When did you announce your expecting?

[Jayjane79]

I'm 8 weeks Thursday and really unsure when to tell people. Close family know but I'm finding it difficult with all the invitations I'm getting for different events parties etc. They will find it all very odd I havnt got a wine in hand or refuse the invitation lol.

Personal choice really whenever you feel comfortable. People feel it’s safer to wait until after 12 weeks as chance of miscarriage decreases but really I guess it comes down to personal choice and if you did have a miscarriage how would you feel about having to tell all the people who know.

Family straight away.
Closest friends straight away.
Everyone else at 12 weeks.

I told my best friends (well, they guessed but didn't breathe a word when I stuck to fruit juice on a girl's weekend in Bilbao) at 2 weeks,
family and in laws at 8 weeks, the rest of the world at 15 weeks. I prefer to wait as long as possible but that's my own comfort level.

Can’t say I made a grand announcement of any sort but my immediate family and closest friends knew early (mum, sister and BF the day I found out, remainder after a private scan at 10.5 weeks).

I told other family and and friends after my 13 week scan, and my work colleagues after 20 week scan.

May be worth adding that my pregnancy wasn’t planned so it wasn’t as though anyone was waiting in the wings to out me the second I declined a glass of Pinot!

Congratulation on your pregnancy!

My work manager- 5 weeks
Best friends -7 weeks
My parents - 10 weeks
Everyone else- 12 weeks onwards

Didn't really plan it tbh just how it worked out with a few practicalities and when we ended up seeing people.

I told my grandmother at 10w because I needed some female support (husband was great but not the same) and I just sent a scan photo to my dad after the 12w scan was clear. The two of them disseminated the info to the rest of the family.

My wedding reception was a few weeks prior. I was the designated driver and had a sneaky bottle of elderflower fizz I decanted into a champagne glass. Good luck OP and congratulations!

• My parents and closest friends at around 6 weeks.

• Work at same time (but I owned the business, so I told my co-founder) normally I'd tell work at 12 weeks.

• Other friends who I'm regularly in contact with 12 weeks.

• Rest of world (not really, just didn't hide my increasing size in Facebook photos etc.) 20 weeks.

Told family, friends and work straight away. Wasn't an announcement as such, just told people when I saw them.

Family and close friends immediately (4 weeks)
Boss - 6 weeks (puked on his shoes)
Everyone else between 6-12 weeks.

It really is whatever you feel comfortable with and feel like doing, there are no rules.

You might feel superstitious about telling people too soon, or worried about breaking the bad news to everyone if you miscarry; you might feel that you'll need the support of your friends in that situation so the more people know, the better; you might assume everyone already knows so you might as well say...

My first pregnancy, I told close friends from 6 weeks or so but not family, and I miscarried at 9 weeks. Second pregnancy I wanted to think about it as little as possible to make the time go quicker - some close family found out by accident but we otherwise kept it secret until 12 weeks.

FWIW, I found that telling people before 12 weeks wasn't the exciting moment I'd hoped it would be, as there's so much miscarriage anxiety I felt like I was jumping the gun. Some people helpfully reminded me of the miscarriage risk when I told them, which burst my bubble a bit.

I haven’t announced it! Told people as and when I see them, starting from conception for family and close friends and 12 weeks for everyone else who needs to know. No grand thing on social media as I know several people who’ve had losses recently.

Going through ivf meant our closest family and friends found out as soon as I got a positive test at 4+2 weeks!

We told other family and friends around 8-12 weeks.

Nothing on social media as I absolutely hate announcements having gone through years of infertility.

But overall it's very personal.

Our parents straight away and my very close friends, will tell close family and other close friends after 12 weeks, and then no one else really, will keep it on a need to know basis, I'm sure my daughter will tell anyone who she can, but am mindful that I don't know the other school mum's that well, so don't want to shout it out in case any are struggling to conceive

Told family and close friends after 12 weeks scan with first and a bit later 14/16weeks with 2nd.

I wouldn't ever tell earlier than the scan but then I am pretty private and wouldn't want to have to explain if anything went wrong.

Also you don't want to be the woman who is pregnant forever! Everyone knows someone who announced super early and its pretty boring tbh!

Im 5 weeks and work colleagues know because im avoiding certain tasks. Parents and best friends know but nobody else does.

I’m 14 weeks today and haven’t told anyone apart from 2 friends (who guessed/asked when we met for dinner). Tell people when you are ready.

We told our parents and a couple of close people at 15 weeks, and everyone else will be told after 20 weeks. This is mainly because we had issues at 12 week scan, extra tests show everything OK, but it's scared me so want the next scan first.

I think it comes down to personal choice, we told our families after having a reassurance scan at 8 weeks, then we announced it to the world at 14 weeks, a couple of weeks after our 12 week scan.

I was very mindful it is my first pregnancy and I was concerned about the risk of miscarrying before 12 weeks and didn't want the pressure of it all.

Do what ever makes you feel comfortable.

I told work as soon as I knew because I work with children that can hit, push me over, bite (not toddlers 9-15 year old) etc.

Told my parents and my in-laws at 5 weeks as I was so sick there was no hiding it over Christmas.

Everyone else is finding out this week. We waited for our 12 weeks scan (got one at 14 weeks) and nipt test.

Definitely go with what you feel comfortable with.

Mum, SIL and brother - 5 weeks
Dad and step dad - 7 weeks
Manager at work - 9 weeks
Couple of friends - 11 weeks

Currently nearly 16 weeks and will tell more people in a couple of weeks when I know the gender x

I didn't find out myself until I was 10 weeks - no 'big announcement' just gradually started telling some people from about 14 weeks.

Parents - straight away
Work manager - 4 weeks (I was due my final probation meeting and didn't want to mislead them!)
Wider family (grandparents and sibling) - 12 weeks
Friends - 16 weeks
Wider friends - 27 weeks