Early pregnancy

[Lilyasmummy]

Hi there, not a regular poster here but I really need some impartial people to vent to or really just put my mind at rest. I am indeed driving myself crazy. I’ve not long discovered I am pregnant and by my ovulation tests/dates I should be around 6 + 2. But I know there is many variables. My booking in appointment isn’t until 7th March. I had a missed miscarriage over 8 years ago before I conceived my daughter who is now 7. It was very traumatic I was pregnant for a grand total of 14 weeks but the embryo was barely 4 weeks. I was dismissed many times by my midwife regarding my concerns. I discovered the non viable pregnancy by attending a private scan and even then she refused to investigate and it was all confirmed at my 12 week scan with the NHS. So as you can imagine it was torture. My pregnancy symptoms dwindled to nothing during that pregnancy. And now it is happening again. For a week solid I have felt like death and now for the past 48hours I’ve felt more or less my normal self. So my panic is setting in thinking history is repeating itself. I know if it’s not meant to be then it’s not the end of the world but it’s the not knowing that’s driving my insane. There is no evidence of an impending miscarriage other than loss of symptoms but then again there wasn’t either with the missed miscarriage I had previous. So all reassurance I have read online about “if you have no cramps or bleeding then all should be well”. Means nothing to me. I’m sorry if this has turned into a rant or an incoherent mess. But does loss of symptoms in early pregnancy always mean what I think it does? I’ve thought about going for an early 6 week scan but I know I probably won’t have answers. They will just confirm there is a foetus there but wether it is alive or not they probably won’t be able to tell just yet. To early potentially to see a heart beat.

I would definitely recommend the early scan. I had a 6 + 3 measurement one this time around, it was the internal wand, and they could clearly see the heartbeat. At 5+2 the last pregnancy, it was just
a sac. Obviously the heartbeat isn't guaranteed, but if I was that nervous, i'd pay the 60 - 80 quid and try to see what is going on, especially as you know your dates. Good luck, I really hope it works out for you OP

Thanks for the reply. Most of the private clinics I looked at only scan from 8 weeks. I did find one or two that scanned from 6 weeks however they are all only offering external scans. I know at this early stage external scans can only reveal so much. But I’ll maybe see how things go in a weeks time and maybe research some more to see if anyone is offering internal scans. I think I already know deep in my heart though that this pregnancy just isn’t viable

@Lilyasmummy sorry to hear you’re worried, I also had a mmc and am now pregnant again and completely understand the fears you explained. Mine also took an agonising amount of time to be fully diagnosed and sorted and I’m in the same boat as you with wanting to know what’s happening this time around sooner rather than later. Have you got a window to the womb or bigger chain near you as they offer internal scans from 6 weeks? If not could you to to your midwife and explain your dip in symptoms/anxieties and see if they will scan on the nhs? However I’ve seen lots of ladies on here saying their symptoms came and went and weren’t the same every day so I’m sure it’s relatively normal. Fingers crossed for you x

Ultrasound direct have internal scanners.

Thank you everyone who has replied. I will definitely look at all these options. I’m in glasgow so there is plenty of private clinics around. I keep changing my mind. Telling myself I’ll see how things go the next few weeks one minute and then the next I’m obsessing and need to know. All I do know is if it is bad news I just want it over with so I can move on.

I had an external scan at 6w+3 with my little boy and could clearly see a heartbeat. I do think it also can depend on your size too I'm quite slim so apparently it's easier to see.

I’m also 6+2!!! I’d book a private early scan for sure you will 99% see a baby and heart beat during the 6th week

You could always book for around 7-8 weeks that way if the dates are slightly behind you should still see the heartbeat.