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Pregnancy after loss

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ga3lmc · 14/02/2022 11:56

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I am currently 9 weeks pregnant. This is my 4th pregnancy. I have DS born 2015 and had 2 losses since then.

This pregnancy I am so anxious. I've told a few people I work with but no close friends or family know yet. I have been feeling so overwhelmed lately in thinking that I'll get to my scan and realise there's no heartbeat again. It's completely irrational as Im very symptomatic and my belly is growing to the point it's now hard to hide.

Does anyone else feel like this? Am I being stupid?

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Butterscotchbaby · 14/02/2022 12:29

I found out last week that i too am pregnant ! 4 weeks and 3 days today- i had a MMC last summer and we only found out when we went for a scan at 9 weeks for them to tell us that there was no heartbeat :( we were totally heartbroken! I feel so anxious right now ! Trying to remain optimistic and relax but the thought of the scan just scares me so much!

grosgirl · 14/02/2022 13:49

Hi both, also in the same boat. Found out this morning that I'm 4+2 after having a miscarriage last summer, which was discovered at a scan I had at 8 weeks.

Butterscotchbaby · 14/02/2022 14:15

Ah we are literally at the exact same point then @grosgirl - do you think you will have an early scan?

grosgirl · 14/02/2022 14:20

@Butterscotchbaby swore to myself after last time that I wouldn't because I went at 8 weeks thinking all was fine and was told there was a heartbeat but I was measuring two weeks behind dates. I was absolutely sure on my dates, as I am this time too so just went home and waiting for the miscarriage. It started two days later.

On the other hand, I'm not sure I can wait until 12 weeks to then find out something is wrong. Not feeling very positive to be honest!

Dreamer30 · 14/02/2022 15:10

I could have written this post. Also 9 weeks pregnant, have a 12yo DD and had 2 losses last year. I had my first booking appointment this morning and told the midwife how anxious I was. I had a scan at 7w+6d and will have one this Friday at 9w+5d. I'm just so worried that something is going to go wrong. I want to relax and enjoy this pregnancy but every little twinge I worry

Dee2349 · 14/02/2022 17:05

Hi ladies I just want to say I'm sorry for all your losses I had 5 mmc in 2018 I have a 13 yr old in which I'm very grateful for then fell pregnant last year and now I'm 22 wks I was so anxious my first couple of months and actually I still am i dont think the feeling ever leaves you but congratulations to you all I'm sure your little rainbow babies will all do great this time around.

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ga3lmc · 15/02/2022 12:08

Thank you all for your responses. I am so sorry for all your losses. It's so hard to go through and I know your pain.

It's comforting to know that I'm not going mad in feeling like this and that it seems to be a very normal feeling when we've all been through this.

I'm now 9 + 4 and just counting down the days to the 7th March for my dating scan. I so badly want my DS to have a sibling and he's desperate to be a big brother. DH has been so supportive but it's not the same when he doesn't know how I feel.

Hoping that everything goes well for us all. Keep me posted on how you're all getting on! ❤️

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