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MCMP13 · 06/02/2022 19:20

Anyone stuck between wanting to tell people the great news but also petrified of them actually knowing? Does that even make sense. I'll be 12 weeks soon and promised my partner we could start telling people but I'm so nervous and kind of like being in a bubble. I know my family will be so excited but we've had losses without them know and I don't want to get their hopes up if it happens again x

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surprised12 · 06/02/2022 20:14

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Anyone stuck between wanting to tell people the great news but also petrified of them actually knowing? Does that even make sense. I'll be 12 weeks soon and promised my partner we could start telling people but I'm so nervous and kind of like being in a bubble. I know my family will be so excited but we've had losses without them know and I don't want to get their hopes up if it happens again x
Exactly the same here!! I had a loss last year and didn't tell a single member of family. I'm 12 weeks next week and feeling mixed now about telling people.

However, I've been going to slimming world in an attempt to continue eating healthy (the slimming world lady knows I'm pregnant and I can go aslong as I'm not aiming to lose weight which I'm not) - the dilemma is my mam joined last week and now comes with me. She's very competitive and will really be wondering why I'm going and not losing any weight.... so figuring I do need to tell her soon.... just not sure if I want to.

Also enjoying being in a bubble without everyone joining in.

annlee3817 · 06/02/2022 23:40

My closest friends and just our parents know already, 11 weeks next week and I'm feeling similar. I don't want to do a FB announcement and only want to tell on a need to know basis, so plan to tell just close family and ask them to keep it that way and then just see how we go. I wasn't like this at all in my first pregnancy, but it turned out to be a high risk pregnancy which Is I think I don't want everyone knowing this time.

Jupiter92 · 07/02/2022 00:27

I know exactly what you mean OP! I have felt the exact same. I was so excited to tell my mum and dad that I cried every time I thought about it, then when it actually came to it I couldn’t even get the words out!

With regards to friends and others, because it still doesn’t feel real to me it’s weird to tell others. It feels like really personal news. I never thought I’d feel like this until I was in this situation (I’m 15 weeks). I also decided not to put it on social media so I do feel like I have more control over who knows. Xxx

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MCMP13 · 07/02/2022 14:37

So glad I'm not alone with this! Thank you for your comments x

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