I’ve just found out I’m pregnant with baby number two… my oldest is 13 months.
I am happy to be pregnant even if the situation is not ideal and certainly wasn’t planned for.
(I am not with the father of my children, we just got caught up in the heat of an emotional moment and a glass of wine lead to a kiss and that kiss lead a little further… and we were careless)
I have no idea how to tell him I’m pregnant, or what to do if he isn’t happy with the news. I am keeping the baby, I want to. I’ve spoken to a friend and weighed it all up in myself and even if it’s not the perfect happy family situation, we co-parent well and get along without fall out (clearly with how close we got to get us here).
I am nervous of his reaction. I do love him, I’m under no delusions of whether this would magically bring us back together, that’s a fairytale version of things that I won’t hold my breath for. I am simply happy with the thought of my eldest having a full blood sibling, as from personal experience, sometimes being the only one that is ‘half’ related to their brothers and sisters hurts.
As well as his reaction I’m also anxious about the reactions from our families, mine will support me no matter what (eventually) I know this much, it’s just the initial response that I am worried for.
His family will just worry because even though he is supportive and involved with our child they haven’t forgiven him for our breakup as they blame him, so I’m concerned they will respond badly to him. I’m also scared that they won’t be happy with the news because of this.
Any comfort or advise would be welcome