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Unexpected pregnancy first time, early in relationship

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scared1994 · 02/02/2022 13:00

Hi all, I'm really hoping I can get some advice from others in a similar position to me or who have been through anything similar.

I'm 27 years old and have been dating my partner for 6 months. He is 33 and has 2 children from a previous relationship. We have been taking things slow and happy with how things ae going.

I was diagnosed with cysts on my ovaries at 21, not full PCOS as I have luckily managed to keep my weight healthy and regulate my periods. But due to this I have generally avoided hormonal contraception and always used condoms.

A few weeks ago we had an 'accident' so I got the MAP straight away. No real worries or side effects.

2 days ago around the time I was due on my period, I did a test as I felt a bit strange. The faintest positive came up, convincing myself it couldn't be I did a digital test that clearly said pregnant. It would make me almost 5 weeks gone.

I am in total shock and torn what to do. I thought I may struggle to conceive so receiving this news has completely threw me off.

I do not feel ready to have a child in any way, the thought of it terrifies me. But on the other hand I have always said I would never terminate.

My partner says the timing isnt ideal but whatever I want to do he will be there and support me, but ultimately I know my life will change the most. And I don't know how I am supposed to make the decision of if we are strong enough to be parents together after so little time.

I am in a stable job, have my own mortage and a great support network. But I don't feel 'ready' , I know people say you never are.

Sorry for ranting, I am hoping that anyone could give me advice of a similar experience and if they chose to continue or terminate.

I also don't want to sound selfish to anyone TTC, I know this is a bit of a miracle baby in my situation. I am just so shocked and cannot process any emotion right now.

Thanks for any comments.

OP posts:
Onthefloor2 · 02/02/2022 13:04

Firstly these things happen, secondly, well done you for at least being in a half decent situation!!
There are pros and cons obviously, but your lucky because you have a job, mortgage-so roof over your head and stand in a better position than most.

It’s just what you want really, you decide for yourself. It’s hard obviously but you middle through, alternatively you can terminate and life goes back to how it was last week.

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