My 3rd child and don't know if I can keep it

[Beckie30]

Hello,

I feel so ashamed to be posting this. I'm 5 weeks pregnant and have a 4 and 8 year old. I really love my little family and life and I'm currently studying at university in my second year.

My issue is that I have found out in 5 weeks pregnant and I'm not sure it is right time for a baby. Every evening I think to myself I can't do this, what about my children I have now and what if somethings wrong. But in the day I wouldn't say Im not perfect but I'm fine with idea.

I'm not sure if I want termination and I feel so guilty for saying that. I'm just not sure it's the right time and it really hurts to say that. Has anyone else left like this? And have any advice? Thanks

Talking it through with someone who doesn't know you so you can talk freely might be a good idea. It's OK to feel like this.

I could have wrote this myself! But I'm 30 weeks now I didn't have the guts to abort. Wrong timing but we have got over it now and we will manage somehow.

Have a good think, we wrote down pros and cons will it effect your life massively? I booked three abortions and didn't turn up for any of them 😫

I think once they are here anyway you can't imagine your life without them x

I was in your position 2 years ago. Marie Stopes was very helpful. They suggested writing down what your life would look like in 6 months, 2 years, and 10 years, with and without the baby.

I decided to go ahead with the pregnancy, but sadly biology had other ideas. There's still a hole in my family where that baby should be.

Very hard, OP.

Looking in from the outside, you have pro actively decided to invest yourself in your Uni degree, towards fulfilment, career, qualifications etc.

The pregnancy was unplanned / accidental.

It’s OK to stick with the plans you made and worked for and to say ‘wrong time’.

Thanks for your replys.

I'm leaning more towards keeping it just so anxious about the whole thing. At night it's so much worst.

I was in the same situation last year , found myself pregnant with my 3rd and was also unsure the whole way through the pregnancy. However she is 7 months now and we all love her so much!! So glad I had her- hope you find the right decision for you