My mum is so insensitive

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My mum would consider our relationship great however through out my life she shames me in front of people, treats me like a child. I love her and hope my pregnancy would bring us closee.

Today she left me in tears, after asking to see my bump she told me my brown line which ive developed since becoming pregnant was horrible. Also when i do exercise after birh it will go. I said it’s not horrible i like it. Then she back tracks on what she says.

I cried when she left because i just don’t understand why my mum would say that, she must think my bumps horrible.

Maybe it sounds im being to sensitive but in the last 6 months she’s made me feel unwelcome at her house when we had to stay there when we were rennovating ours, I was pregnant also at the time at hers, which she knew.

Called me out at the dinner table and said my dad said he thinks im getting fat.

You are not being over sensitive. These comments would hurt coming from anyone but are a million times worse from your own mother.
I would suggest you tell her the comments she is making are hurtful and she needs to stop it. If this doesn’t work I think you need to distance yourself for your own mental health.
Good luck with your baby

Thank you

For years I’ve felt bad for feeling this way about her just because she’s my mother.

If i tell her the comments she makes upser me, she just gets defensive. I wish i could tell her how shes made me feel and for her to acknowledge it.

I will have to distance from her.

Thankyou

It’s the only way you can stop the hurtful comments upsetting you. It sounds like if she gets defensive she is not likely to change because she’s not actually listening to you.
Look after yourself and your baby that’s the most important thing.