Knicker checking extraordinaire - pregnancy after mc

[Newbean]

Hi everyone:

Starting this as a lighthearted thread for us ladies who are pregnant after miscarriage and who know the obsession that surrounds it. I'm not downplaying mc at all I just have to laugh at myself or I'd probably cry...

I have had two miscarriage before, one at the end of November and i found out last week I am pregnant again.

I am 5 weeks today and have never got to that point before without the dreaded spotting starting.

I am producing a lot of cm (sorry for the tmi) and there is definitely a lot of 'hmm I feel wet I had better just check that...'

I wondered if anyone else is going through this right now! I am a mad panty checker!!!

I hope someone can give me advise. I am freaking out I had a caramel / brown like d/c today. It looks like the same as when I first started to MC I don't know what to think. I have No pain. Could this just be nornal old blood still coming out?

@mrsmb03 I only ever get that after my period, just before my fertile window. CM can be a bit weird in pregnancy ...mine has gone darker so that I'm noticing it way more than when I had EWCM. I would very much hope it's just due to pregnancy hormones but I can understand your worry. Sending hugs xx

@bfnancy thank you xx

I'm 38 weeks, and after my two consecutive miscarriages — there hasn't been a single day that I haven't dreaded going to the bathroom. Checking the tissues/pads... it's a constant headache but I'm almost at the finishing point! Keep me in your prayers x

@haidri will keep you in my prayers, I will have an early scan this Friday am, please keep me in yours! x

It touches me that people found this thread helpful. I am 6+1 now which I’ve never got to before, latest I started spotting was 4+6.

I have some patterned pyjamas with a brown spot or pattern on the crotch, they make me look twice sometimes. I did considered bleaching that bit, would that truly be OTT crazy lady?

@mrsmb03 good luck with your scan 🧡

@haidri it’s so nice to see someone with prior miscarriages who is now so far along 🧡

Had my scan today, baby is 7 weeks & 1 day. Thanks & Praise God Baby has a strong heartbeat! Thanks for all good wishes here ❤😘🙏

@Newbean How are you progressing with your pregnancy?

@Haidri have you got successful pregnancies prior to your loss? Did you do anything different to your current pregnancy?

To the both of you ladies with the two miscarriages what did you do to manage your loss? and did you ever find out what happened?

It's just that I started bleeding yesterday and called gp, epau and I feel like no one seems to care the latest they said I can have my scan is on Monday. I waited 2 years to finally get pregnant and now I don't know what to think. I'm scared. I'm also not that young.

@mrsmb03 I'm a 23 year old with no underlying conditions whatsoever. I just had consecutive miscarriages in a row that all seemed to end at the 12 week mark which is supposedly the "safe zone" but unfortunately ended in miscarriages.

For this pregnancy, I begged my GP to refer me to a consultant because I had extreme anxiety [they said it was PND after miscarriages] & so I was referred to a consultant OBGYN.

They prescribed me aspirin & progesterone for the first 14 weeks, and guess what...

I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl, my first born on February 3rd! She's three weeks old.

She's truly a miracle. And after countless nights of tears, anxiety particularly throughout this pregnancy — she's currently the reason why I'm awake as she just wants to play.

Keep faith in yourself and most importantly YOUR BODY. Turn to your GP and get prescribed medications as they'll do blood tests on you first and foremost. Wishing you & all the brave warriors baby dust x

@Heidi thank you for your story. Did you get pregnant fairly easily? I have been trying to tell them I am 42 with mmc in Jan 20 and took 2 years to conceive. I have been saying this so they will look after me and so some extra checks. When I pushed for a scan at 7 weeks I felt like I was being told off and being seen as overly anxious. We saw a strong heartbeat at 7 weeks and everything was going fine. Why didn't they check on my bloods why didn't they monitor me, why did they not prescribe progesterone with me? They never helped me not properly I feel. I had a midwife appointment on my 9th week by then I started having red discharge. I feel like something could have been done. I feel like my hcg could have been checked, I feel like maybe my hormones needed help. Sorry for not so positive post on this thread and I hope someone else can tell me their story to give me some hope.

I'm between 4 and 5 weeks. Found out at 9dpo. I had a mmc with surgery at 11 weeks. The anxiety is horrendous. I can honestly say these last 6 months have been the worst in my life. I spoke to GP cos I'm freaking out over lack of symptoms (breasts were very sore now they're just mildly sensitive, should I worry?) GP wasn't very helpful. Wouldn't give me tests and just told me to ring EPU But that they wouldn't give me a scan before 6 weeks.

I had morning sickness and strong pregnancy tests right up until I had my surgery so just feel like I can't trust my body at all. This is horrible. Atm I'm just trying to pretend I'm not pregnant.

I've had nightmares and I think a flashback of my surgery when I was driving my car. Not a big dramatic flashback but in my head I was in the operating room getting that procedure done. (I was awake during it) Can anyone give me advice?

@Raindrops2015 I cannot give you advice but please can I just say I feel every single thing that you have said on your post. I feel exactly the same, the kind of care that they give to newly pregnant or maybe even later on their pregnancy mothers are absolutely disgusting. This is probably why mumsnet has been created or that is where we anxious mothers find refuge in. I find that I can't talk to anyone who is willing to listen or genuinely concerned or interested. I feel like I am made to feel silly or just being overly anxious for nothing. I feel like we are left alone to fend for ourselves and to just deal with it. I feel like the common consensus with health professionals is if you will miscarry you will miscarry there is nothing you can do about it so just keep calm and carry on and go back to work as soon as possible while you're at it. The EPAU is useless some of the GPs are useless all they can say there are no scans available you just have to wait meanwhile just go to A&E when you're already at your worse by then it's too late you're probably already in flood of tears or shaking with anxiety while bleeding . Oh btw, remember it's not your fault if you miscarry we are supposed to say that.

I believe though there is something that can be done, if it wasn't a chromosomal abnormality maybe mom just needed a little help with hormones. Just tell us something if not at least try not to be dismissive. It's your job to care. I asked the doctor if its normal to bleed ( asI heard of some women bleed due to subchronic hematoma). The doctor's answer was well it isn't normal is it! (which I suppose is true) but common she could have some empathy at least!

@Raindrops2015 I am so sorry for what you are going through and the flashback you had I understand and I feel for you. Please take care. x

Afternoon all, wondering if I can join you? I miscarried my first at 11 weeks 3 years ago and struggled to conceive again due to PCOS (which = difficulty getting pregnant and higher chance of miscarriage if you do get pregnant). I had IVF and gave birth to my wonderful little boy in November 2020. It was a pandemic pregnancy and probably the most stressed out I have ever been! I bled for quite a few weeks from about week 8 and was constantly convinced I had miscarried but I was lucky and it everything was fine.

After all the difficulty getting pregnant previously, I found out this morning that I am pregnant again which I am gobsmacked at as we had only had unprotected sex twice, I literally took me years and major medical intervention last time. By my calculations I am 5 weeks, hoping I can have a slightly more relaxed time this one having had one succesful pregnancy but we are keeping it quiet for now whilst we get our heads around it and hope everything will be ok. I'm not even sure what to do next. Think I will wait till next week to notify the GP and maybe a private scan around 8 weeks, but it's easy to get a bit addicted to them. Will wait and see.

@mrsmb03 fertility clinics must be your go-to if you're not being heard by your GP. They'll see you usually on the same week, or even the same day & do intense checks both on you and your partner

@haidrink I did not even think of that as fallen pregnant last December after 2 years of TTC also when my husband was on his 3rd box of Impryl as recommended by the fertility doctor. I will look into that, thank you that's really helpful. I know probably different prices different places but what are the charges like?

@mrsmb03 if you're having the all-range blood tests then it's cheaper than the whole weekly testing of ovulation etc.

Try and contact your GP once more or call the antenatal clinic & explain your situation. There might be someone that can get you a quicker referral?

@mrsmb03 thank you for your kind words. I had an awful night last night. Really bad cramps and backache and ended up in EPU. It was silly busy so came home again and waiting on them to phone me. Is backache and cramps a bad sign? They're coming and going and get worse when I am on the go.

@raindrops2015 I cannot tell as all women are different, when I was on my 6th going on 7th week I had a scary caramel discharge which was exactly the same as when my last mmc started so I pushed for a scan and baby have a heartbeat and was the right size for that week. I did have lower back pain and twinges on and off from the early days I also have very few almost non existent pregnancy symptoms which I worried a lot but there was a heartbeat at 7 weeks. I have been bleeding for almost 4 days now, I am on my 10 week as of yesterday, I don't know what is happening to me tbh, I have no cramps like the last time so I really am living in constant fear and at the same time in hope. Yesterday and the day before I have been crying all day but I am trying very hard to keep positive. My husband believes I am not miscarrying the blood started after intercourse last weekend so who knows? They can only scan me next week. Basically I am expected to live in anxiety for a week before any kind of confirmation of what is happening to me or my baby that is if I haven't ended up in A&'E yet. Last MC in 2020 a gush of blood came out which I think was the main MC and hubby said I fainted, ended up with the paramedics coming checking on me but thank God I didn't have to go to A&E and didn't have medical intervention. Cramps and back ache maybe a sign of MC but can also be a sign that things are just expanding and/or of hormones so we cannot tell. All I can say is try to keep yourself safe and healthy as much as possible eat well, drink plenty of water so whatever it is that is happening in your body, you will have the energy to keep yourself safe and healthy. I cannot stress enough please take care of yourself. Please try and keep well. x

@mrsmb03 I hope this week goes quickly for you. I'm in a similar boat. Waiting 9 days for a scan. I plan to keep vey busy and try not to obsess. Easier said than done. I'm going to try some hypnosis and meditation as well. I hope you can find something that will get you through but your last scan sounds so positive and after a heartbeat is detected the risk falls massively. I see alot of women on here with bleeding and it is a minor issue. Fingers crossed for both of us that we get through the next week or so with our sanity intact! Stay positive. Thinking of you and keep me posted how it goes for you x

Jumping on - for me it was knocker checking but tissue checking every single wee. There is how I found out I was having my second mc.

So I spent 8 months checking the toilet paper every wee for blood up until birth.

I thought I would be so relieved once he was born but no having the first wee post c-section I had more on mind as I hobbled down to the toilet!