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Terrified of nothing being there on my scan

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Jenna240 · 25/01/2022 10:11

Hi everyone, this is my first post.
A bit of back story...

We have a 7 year old and have been trying to get pregnant again for 4 years now. After 2 years of getting no where we decided to go to the doctors for tests. Long story short I was diagnosed with PCOS and we were due to start some treatment in February.

2 weeks ago I noticed that my boobs were really sore which they usually are before a period starts but this only lasts for a few days usually. But I'd noticed it had been a week! I did 2 tests Saturday evening and they both came up straight away with a very dark line. The day after I did a digital and this came back 'pregnant' too!
I started getting or probably noticing more symptoms after this. Extremely hungry when waking up, bloated and tingling feelings. Then they've all just disappeared this week.
I had my booking in app last week and going off my last period, the midwife thinks I'm 10 weeks. I reckon I could be anything from 6-10 weeks as my periods are all over the place and my cycles can be 60 days long sometimes!

I'm struggling to believe I'm pregnant at the moment because of how long we've waited for this and the lack of symptoms. I've booked an early scan for tomorrow but I'm petrified that there's going to be nothing there and I've imagined the whole thing. I can't let myself feel happy about it or want to talk about it because I don't believe it's happening. Does anyone else feel like this? I just keep telling myself its all a dream or if there is anything there that it might've stopped growing when my symptoms stopped.

I'm not sure what I'm looking for with this post, maybe just a bit of reassurance and that I'm not the only one that feels like this :(

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Rainbowqueeen · 25/01/2022 10:13

Handhold OP. It’s normal to be anxious. I hope you get reassurance from the scan

onwardsandupwards22 · 25/01/2022 10:15

Definitely normal !

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Jenna240 · 25/01/2022 10:28

Thank you for your replies. I never felt like this with my daughter but I didn't find out until I was 12 weeks along and at my booking in app with her the midwife checked my tummy and listened to her heartbeat which we got to hear. This time everything has been different and there has been no confirmation from a doctor or midwife that I'm pregnant. I'm hoping and praying that it's all OK!

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Firsttimetrier · 25/01/2022 11:08

I felt exactly the same as you, was so worried that there wouldn’t be a babe in there so we got an 8 week scan. This definitely helped to relieve some anxiety but didn’t last long as I lost all my symptoms at 10 weeks, so convinced myself I had a MMC. Just came out of my 12 week scan and everything is looking good.

Some things that helped me feel a bit less anxious was to tell myself that ‘today I’m pregnant and I have no reason to believe otherwise’ and I tried to accept that there isn’t anything I can do to change the outcome, so try to relax as right now, I’m pregnant.

Can you do a private scan before your 12 week scan?

Will keep my fingers crossed everything works out for you.

annlee3817 · 25/01/2022 11:12

Handhold, hope all goes ok with the scan tomorrow, completely normal to feel anxious about it and not want to get your hopes up

waffle222 · 25/01/2022 12:21

I've had a mixed experience of pregnancy's and misscarriages. Some with little symptoms resulting in healthy baby, last one lots of symptoms but ended in misscarriage, I think it's natural to be nervous and anxious. Just because symptoms lessoned it doesn't mean everything isn't OK. Thinking of you for tomorrow, hopefully brings the reassurance you want xx

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Jenna240 · 25/01/2022 15:57

@Firsttimetrier

I felt exactly the same as you, was so worried that there wouldn’t be a babe in there so we got an 8 week scan. This definitely helped to relieve some anxiety but didn’t last long as I lost all my symptoms at 10 weeks, so convinced myself I had a MMC. Just came out of my 12 week scan and everything is looking good.

Some things that helped me feel a bit less anxious was to tell myself that ‘today I’m pregnant and I have no reason to believe otherwise’ and I tried to accept that there isn’t anything I can do to change the outcome, so try to relax as right now, I’m pregnant.

Can you do a private scan before your 12 week scan?

Will keep my fingers crossed everything works out for you.

Congratulations glad everything went well with your 12 weeks scan Smile

I have a private scan booked for tomorrow afternoon so fingers crossed, everything is fine.

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Jenna240 · 25/01/2022 15:58

@waffle222

I've had a mixed experience of pregnancy's and misscarriages. Some with little symptoms resulting in healthy baby, last one lots of symptoms but ended in misscarriage, I think it's natural to be nervous and anxious. Just because symptoms lessoned it doesn't mean everything isn't OK. Thinking of you for tomorrow, hopefully brings the reassurance you want xx
Thank you for this! I do keep getting bouts of nausea but thats really it. Thank you, I will update tomorrow.
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Firsttimetrier · 25/01/2022 16:08

@Jenna240 will keep my fingers crossed for you tomorrow and sending you lots of positivity! ❤️❤️

Carebear99 · 25/01/2022 16:32

Congratulations. Me and my husband have waited for 20 years to get pregnant and I'm currently 7 weeks. I've been incredibly anxious so far and I've had 3 scans 1 private and 2 at the Early Pregnancy Unit. I totally get how you are feeling bit I wish you all the best x

freshflowers2 · 25/01/2022 16:45

Hi, congratulations on your pregnancy!
We tried naturally for 6 years and one day it just happened out of the blue. I have been terrified at every stage, first thinking there would be no heartbeat, then a missed miscarriage and then/now that there would be something seriously wrong with our baby. Now in the 3rd trimester so not quite there yet, but keeping everything crossed. I do understand where you're coming from.
Wishing you all the best Smile

Tisfortired · 25/01/2022 16:58

Hi Jenna Smile I am in the same boat as you at the moment. I have an 8 year old son, we have been trying for #2 for 4.5 years. Had miscarriages in 2019 and 2021. Found out I was pregnant a week ago and think I am around 5+3 now.

After my last loss my doctor said to contact him immediately to arrange early scans and possibly cyclogest - I am having my scan in the morning at 5+4 and totally bricking it. I’m struggling big time to believe there is a viable baby in there.

Symptoms wise I have had sore boobs and v sensitive nips. Mild nausea that comes and goes but that’s about it really - although have been quite tired at work today but that might be the worry!

I have my fingers crossed for you tomorrow and hope it all works out for us.

Carebear99 · 25/01/2022 17:10

@Carebear99

Congratulations. Me and my husband have waited for 20 years to get pregnant and I'm currently 7 weeks. I've been incredibly anxious so far and I've had 3 scans 1 private and 2 at the Early Pregnancy Unit. I totally get how you are feeling bit I wish you all the best x
I meant to say we've been trying to get pregnant for 20 years. Our daughter is 20.
DaphneBasset · 25/01/2022 19:39

I have PCOS, I had some bleeding at the start and lost my pregnancy symptoms at 8/9 weeks so was also very worried like you. Seeing my little bean on the screen at 12 weeks was the highlight of my pregnancy because I wasn't sure that I would. I was very, very slow to tell friends/family because I was so worried about it all.

I think it's totally normally to worry and the upside is that it makes each milestone sweeter because you don't take it for granted. I wish you all the best xxx

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Jenna240 · 26/01/2022 09:50

Thank you everyone. I'm very anxious about the scan today, I don't think I'll be able to look. I'm trying not to get my hopes up at the moment :( I'll update you all when I get back this afternoon.

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Firsttimetrier · 26/01/2022 11:37

Sending you lots of positivity @Jenna240 really hope you get some good news! ❤️

I told the sonographer to that I was nervous something was wrong and asked if they can check for a heartbeat straight away, so I didn’t have to wait a long time for an answer either way. X

SoOverThisCrap · 26/01/2022 12:19

@Jenna240 I totally understand your anxiety. I had a MC in 2019 and a MMC with twin last February. I fell pregnant again in October but it was a chemical. I'm now 5 weeks and I've got a scan in two weeks and I'm taking Cyclogest pessaries. I'm already anxious about having the scan. I had to go to the Gynaegology department today to pick up my Cyclogest prescription and my heart was racing thinking about my scan. I hope all goes well for you today x

heldinadream · 26/01/2022 12:22

Everything crossed for you @Jenna240. All the good wishes in the world. Flowers

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Jenna240 · 26/01/2022 14:04

So I've been for the scan and they've dated me a lot earlier than midwife predicted but I knew that what with having PCOS. I'm actually only 5 weeks and 1 day but sonographer says a single live pregnancy can be seen. They've told me to come back in 2 weeks for a rescan.

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GirlMama21 · 26/01/2022 14:16

@Jenna240

So I've been for the scan and they've dated me a lot earlier than midwife predicted but I knew that what with having PCOS. I'm actually only 5 weeks and 1 day but sonographer says a single live pregnancy can be seen. They've told me to come back in 2 weeks for a rescan.
@Jenna240 Did they explain what exactly they saw to conclude it was a "live" pregnancy? You mentioned they dated you at just over 5 weeks- assuming that means they saw a gestational sac, perhaps with a yolk sac within it? I think at 5 weeks +1 would probably have been too early to see a fetal pole.

Hope you have a safe pregnancy x

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Jenna240 · 26/01/2022 14:28

The notes they have given me just says single intrauterine pregnancy seen, no fetal pole seen presently. GS measured 1.31cm and estimated 5 weeks 1 day.

Does that all sound normal and OK?

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Rainbowqueeen · 26/01/2022 21:15

Not a medical person but it sounds normal and ok to me.

Also surely if something was not normal and ok you would have been referred elsewhere?? Congrats!!

GirlMama21 · 26/01/2022 23:25

@Jenna240

The notes they have given me just says single intrauterine pregnancy seen, no fetal pole seen presently. GS measured 1.31cm and estimated 5 weeks 1 day.

Does that all sound normal and OK?

Yes lovely it does, congrats xx
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Jenna240 · 27/01/2022 09:43

@Rainbowqueeen

Not a medical person but it sounds normal and ok to me. Also surely if something was not normal and ok you would have been referred elsewhere?? Congrats!!
I did keep asking if it was all OK and she kept saying yes it's just too early. I was so so nervous that I just couldn't take it all in at the time. I will update once I have my next scan in 2 weeks.
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Jenna240 · 27/01/2022 09:45

Thank you @girlmama21 Smile

I think because I've waited so long it's just hard to believe! X

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