Am I wrong ?

[mumof2littlemonkeysx]

Mother in law went on my phone and sent herself all my scan photos ( 4d ones so you could see what baby looks likely ), am I wrong to think she should have asked it was okay before doing this? Partner saying she did nothing wrong and just wanted them, I would have happily sent her the scan photos if she just asked it was okay first before doing it when I went to the toilet. I would have also told her not to share them with anyone else as I don't want people I'm not close with to see what my baby looks like before its born. I feel like maybe I'm wrong for feeling this way and should just let go of it, I'm just hurt my partner doesn't care how I feel. He always thinks I'm attacking her and I'm not, I just think she should have asked if it was okay first so I could have told her yes of course but please don't share with anyone as we haven't either!

It's an invasion of privacy I would be annoyed!

No you’re not wrong - she shared the contents of your belly without your permission. I understand how you feel.

When my baby was born, I wouldn’t let a photo of my baby leave the delivery room or a text message about it. It was a few minutes when it was just me and her (and the delivery people) but I mean, it was just us, before sharing her. I get it. Those photos of yours are private too in the same way.

@Halli2020 thank you for your reply!

You're not wrong, she's invaded your privacy. She could've just asked. You don't just go through someone's phone and send stuff to yourself.

So you no have a code on your phone?

Change your phone password for starters!

Whaaat
A) she shouldn't be getting on your phone when you are not looking, for anything
B) you do not forfeit the right to privacy because you are pregnant

She was completely unreasonable to send herself anything from your phone as that’s a huge invasion of privacy

But you’re overthinking that others will see what your baby looks like before it’s born. It really doesn’t matter, no one will care that much

@KimDeals

No you’re not wrong - she shared the contents of your belly without your permission. I understand how you feel.

When my baby was born, I wouldn’t let a photo of my baby leave the delivery room or a text message about it. It was a few minutes when it was just me and her (and the delivery people) but I mean, it was just us, before sharing her. I get it. Those photos of yours are private too in the same way.

Thank you for your reply. I'm glad someone knows how I feel. I just feel it's common courtesy and manors to ask someone if that was okay, I guess not everyone thinks the same way. I will try and just let this one slide though as I don't feel it's worth falling out over, I have told her to please not do it again. She wasn't best pleased!

@Toanewstart22

So you no have a code on your phone?

Yes it's my sons birth year so I guess she happened to guess correctly!

@HotToddyColdSauvignon

Change your phone password for starters!

Absolutely! I changed it the minute I saw what she had done

My DH or DD or anybody close to me would not look at my phone without my permission. I think she owes you a big apology and be made to delete them . Tell if she doesn't she won't be seeing the baby when it's born .

@ShirleyPhallus

She was completely unreasonable to send herself anything from your phone as that’s a huge invasion of privacy

But you’re overthinking that others will see what your baby looks like before it’s born. It really doesn’t matter, no one will care that much

Completely agree I perhaps am overthinking things slightly, I think it was a big misunderstanding she now knows not to do something like that again

I would be pissed off that she'd gone on my own. That's a huge invasion of privacy.

phone not own

She shouldn't have been on your phone. No one should be on someone else's phone without permission for any reason.
Being pregnant does not mean you don't have any rights.
That said, the pictures is the sort of thing that saying no to makes you like a berk. She still should have asked you to send them to her, and it doesn't excuse her in any way.

So now you know she isn't to be trusted. Make sure anything you tell her is common knowledge.. She isn't your friend either.. Sly fucking woman.
Your dp is a spineless twat.

No matter what it was for, she shouldn't have gone on your phone. It's your personal property and an invasion of privacy. She sounds very rude.

I completely think she is out of order going on your phone when you left the room. But I genuinely think the woman probably just wanted the photos of her grandchild and meant no malice in it. I think people saying she can’t be trusted and she’s a sly fucking woman is abit of a step to far. Just have a word and tell her she’s wrong she’s your mother in law so you should be able to speak to her without your husband. I think people forget that other people are so so excited for these babies to come and just think of themselves. Not all mother in laws are monsters and they are human and sometimes just get it completely wrong like we do with somethings

I would not be happy with this, yes there was likely no malice but I would have to correct this quickly as it’s just a lack of boundaries that is likely to get worse throughout the remainder of the pregnancy and once baby is born!