Feeling so unattractive with no interest in being intimate with husband

[2ndtimemummy2022]

I am 20 weeks and since about 6/7 weeks I've had absolutely no sex drive

My husband has been pretty understanding but I know he's fed up. He's tried and I end up crying or getting angry

My first 16 weeks were really tough and I was really sick, but I'm still not feeling intimate, I feel fat, even though I've barley gained weighted, but dealing with my changing body has really effected me this time compared to my 1st

I got back into shapre pretty quickly with my first , but I am so self conscious and worried I won't this time!! I know it sounds so selfish

I don't even like my husband looked at me and I feel awful !!

Please tell me this is normal?!

My 1st born is a boy and I had none of these issues first time around , we don't know what we are having but I do wonder if the sex of the baby has anything to do it it?

Feel so bad for being so selfish , and worrying about what I look like when growing a healthy baby is the most important thing 😢😣

I'm really sorry you feel like this OP. Pregnancy can make your body feel so different and uncomfortable it's surprising anyone manages to keep up there sex life! We tried for 2 years and I'm currently 12+3 after IVF. Before we started trying I was really happy with my body but over the 2 years I've put on a little weight (I was fasting a lot to keep my weight down but fasting and TTC/pregnancy aren't so compatible). My breasts have gone up two sizes too and they were already a 34F so I really didn't need that!

I don't think my DH has noticed, or at least sees me differently. I really don't think COVID has helped either. My social contact has gone down a lot. I think seeing other people more gave me a more balanced view of myself in comparison.

Have you spoken to your DH about how you feel? Or perhaps a friend or your midwife?