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2 possible fathers?? Help

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Kaaypaap · 19/01/2022 13:41

So I need help trying to determine who the baby’s father is before she’s born without a paternity test right now to put my mind at ease. I’m pregnant with a due date of January 28th. My last period was April 23rd. So I was having sex everyday up until I got pregnant with my now boyfriend. He would never ehaculate inside of me though. Always used the pull out method. Again we were having sex every single day even during ovulation days unprotected. I had one slip up where I slept with someone else and he actually did ejaculate in me the one time we did it which was may 14th. My period app says I ovulated may 9th. Based on this who’s most likely to be the father of my child??

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Kaaypaap · 19/01/2022 14:20

Yeah my ovulation dates that are in blue show may 2nd to the twelth as chances to get pregnant but an ovulation date circled of may 9th

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whatfreshheck · 19/01/2022 14:20

There is another thread almost identical to this on MN. So I will repeat the advice give by most on there. DNA test is the only way you will know, and make sure you get an STI check. Good luck OP. Hope it all works out for you.

PeeAche · 19/01/2022 14:24

I don't want to speculate but I will say: "props to you for not just lying about it"

Anyway. There is absolutely something you can do about it right now but it is expensive (like £700 expensive).

It's called a NIPP. I just googled it for you. Heaven forbid if my husband ever found my browsing history. 😅
They do it from a series of blood tests. You only need you and your boyfriend to take part.

That said... your due date is so close now that you might as well just wait.

If he hasn't left you yet, and you're generally very happy together, I'd say there's a very good chance he'll stay. Try to be positive and not get all worked up about a thing that hasn't happened yet.

If he does leave you, he was never going to be a sticker arounder. It just wasn't meant to be. And thank goodness you aren't yolked to him forever! He'd soon fade into a memory of just someone you used to know.

Whatever the outcome, you'll be so cross with yourself in years to come that you wasted these last precious days fretting over someone that isn't you or your daughter.
One is about to become two and she'll never be a physical part of you ever again. Focus on that and try to put the awfulness of the DNA business out of your mind.

❤️

Nikkic2123 · 19/01/2022 14:34

It’s unlikely with a 28 day cycle to have ovulated on or after cd22
Although not impossible for you to have ovulated later for a longer cycle this month.

Is looking Like that it’s your boyfriends baby, as everyone else said though- there is only one way to really find out.

YoBeaches · 19/01/2022 14:36

14th of may on a last period date of 23 April is cycle day 22. Which is too late to conceive on a 28day cycle.

Not impossible, if you happened to oubliette late that month - but highly unlikely.

You boyfriend was likely not 'pulling it out' very effectively. Most men don't.

Anotherviewtoyou · 19/01/2022 14:47

@Kaaypaap you will need to do a DNA test to know for sure. Your app might not be accurate about ovulation. You would need to be doing OPK to know when you’re actually ovulating.

You should also do an STI screen if you haven’t already given you don’t use protection. Some STI are dangerous for baby.

AdviceOnLife · 19/01/2022 15:09

You can get a DNA test during pregnancy. There are risks involved in this I believe, not sure percentage etc, but you could look into that. That means by the time labour happens you both have a difinitive answer either way.
As a pp we'll done for being so open and honest. Good luck. I hope you get the outcome you would like.

MabelG · 19/01/2022 15:23

Hello, just to add that unfortunately apps are completely inaccurate at predicting ovulation as they are just based on averages, not on you as an individual. I had to have scans to track ovulation and the apps were not even close. Hope everything works out for you x

Nikkic2123 · 19/01/2022 15:58

Excluding apps etc
On a 28 day cycle, you will not have ovulated on or after cd22.

Anotherviewtoyou · 19/01/2022 16:18

@Nikkic2123

Excluding apps etc On a 28 day cycle, you will not have ovulated on or after cd22.
You don’t know that. Some women have a very short luteal phase.
Igneo · 19/01/2022 16:27

@PeeAche what a lovelY post.

Listen to Pee Ache.

Good luck with the next few weeks.

Nikkic2123 · 19/01/2022 17:04

A 6 day Leutal phase wouldn’t result in pregnancy!

savioursal · 19/01/2022 17:09

You should probably consider going on the pill

ImAnOmelette · 19/01/2022 17:18

When I had my first mirena put in I was asked what form of contraception I was using. I said withdrawal method. How long? Twenty years. I then got some gentle counselling on seeking fertility advice if I wanted children.

I explained I have two children, both conceived relatively quickly, one on month one of trying. Obviously WM works for some people.

DS1 was conceived on a month I ovulated twice. (Temp charting, CM observing, noticeable ovulation pain...). Never happened previously or since!

You won't know unless you test.

MsChatterbox · 19/01/2022 19:01

@PeeAche

I don't want to speculate but I will say: "props to you for not just lying about it"

Anyway. There is absolutely something you can do about it right now but it is expensive (like £700 expensive).

It's called a NIPP. I just googled it for you. Heaven forbid if my husband ever found my browsing history. 😅
They do it from a series of blood tests. You only need you and your boyfriend to take part.

That said... your due date is so close now that you might as well just wait.

If he hasn't left you yet, and you're generally very happy together, I'd say there's a very good chance he'll stay. Try to be positive and not get all worked up about a thing that hasn't happened yet.

If he does leave you, he was never going to be a sticker arounder. It just wasn't meant to be. And thank goodness you aren't yolked to him forever! He'd soon fade into a memory of just someone you used to know.

Whatever the outcome, you'll be so cross with yourself in years to come that you wasted these last precious days fretting over someone that isn't you or your daughter.
One is about to become two and she'll never be a physical part of you ever again. Focus on that and try to put the awfulness of the DNA business out of your mind.

❤️

This this! Keeping everything crossed it will work out how you want but if not you will be OK in time!
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