Upset with Family 😢

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I’m 36 weeks and every week without fail my mil and sil message me asking how I am, how is baby etc.

I’ve received a message on a family group chat from my mum about something completely random and stupid imo and I looked back through all my messages and not once in my pregnancy has she asked if I am okay, how I’m doing, how baby is doing. Neither has my brother. We don’t speak on the phone so she wouldn’t have asked me then either! Plenty of messages about her holiday and other random crap. Now I’m upset and pssed off at them as they don’t seem to give a sht. AITA for feeling this way?

Have you asked them how they are?

People get caught up with their lives very easily. Your pregnancy is the biggest thing in your life right now but gently, it's not the most important thing in others lives.

@Valdes I used to ask my mum but gave up on that when I never got asked back and all she did was talk about her.

It’s been a long journey for me with 4 mc and a mmc over 2 years, and lots of scans, appointments, bloods etc and she is aware of everything yet doesn’t ask.

This does sound a bit thoughtless of them. Do you see them? Do they ask you in real life maybe?

Sounds like my mother. She didn't speak to me for my entire 3rd pregnancy because she didn't want us to have a 3rd child.

In my opinion it may be that she doesn't like anyone else being the centre of attention or maybe jealous. It'll be interesting to see if she becomes the doting granny when baby is born and she can make it all about her.

This is certainly what me mother is like. I had to make a decision that even if she wasn't bothered about me and my baby, my baby was the most important thing in my life, especially when his grandmother would have preferred that he was on his way.

@Glitterygreen I see mum every 2-3 weeks, it’s always us going round to her house. She never makes the effort to come here, asks to come see us or even accepts our invitation for dinner etc. She has been to our new house three times and we’ve been here 7 months, so not for want of trying

Also sounds like my mum. I've come to accept it, but we fall out a lot if I don't do or say what she wants to hear