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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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So confused desperately need advice/encouragement

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Solenne · 27/12/2007 17:50

Hi, this is my first post on here and I really need some advice.
By my calculations I should now be 11 weeks. I noticed some blood stained mucus on the toilet paper last thursday so I panicked and rang my midwife who sent me to the epu the following morning. They did a scan and the sonographer could see a gestational sac, a yolk sac and a fetal pole. The gestational sac was misshapen apparently. She told me that by 10 weeks (what I should have been) she should be able to see much more than that.
The doctor I saw then said she was 90-95% sure that this was going to end in miscarriage. I was in pieces and went home woth an appointment to return for a rescan on the 31st.

So, on Saturday the bleeding got heavier and there were a couple of little clots. I didn't have pain apart from a bit of backache which I get when pg anyway (have 2 children already) and I carried on my day as normal. Went grocery shopping and got some Christmas presents. On the sunday I felt perfectly fine and the bleeding had slowed tremendously since then its been brown stuff, not a lot of it until it stopped completely yesterday. So in total I have been bleeding for 4 days.
Has anyone else had this happen to them and what was the outcome?
Don't know if this is a mc or not. Thought it should have been loads worse. Physically it was easier than my periods which aren't terrible.

Any advice greatly appreciated.
Bex

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JingleBelgoHoHoHo · 27/12/2007 18:03

Hi Solenne - so sorry to hear you are going through this.

I miscarried last summer at just seven weeks and lost a very large clot (the embryo) and a piece that I assume would have been a placenta. There was lots of blood for about five days, then I had a scan to make sure that everything had gone, and it had.

It sounds like you need another scan to find out what it happening, which I see is booked fo r the 31st. That's good, it should tell you what's happening.

Also, when I miscarried, my hormones went all over the place, ranging from numbness to despair.

Hope you are ok

juuule · 27/12/2007 18:11

It might not be complete yet. The bleeding might restart.

whomovedmychocolate · 27/12/2007 18:11

Solenne - how horrible for you

Okay, well the amount of bleeding depends largely on when the pregnancy failed. If for example the baby stopped developing at six weeks (as mine did prior to this pregnancy) you don't actually bleed too much - although in my case it all came in one day) as the feotus is only slightly bigger than a chocolate button. That's including the sac.

However you do need to get a scan to check all the products of conception have gone (it's called an RPOC scan - retained products of conception scan).

It can take up to six weeks for the entire miscarriage though.

Sorry you are going through this. I'm now pregnant again. I had a mc before DD and one since and now I'm 8 weeks pregnant again and quietly hopeful. I hope in time you will find yourself happily pregnant again.

pania · 27/12/2007 18:15

So sorry you are going through this.. but are you absolutely sure you're not off with your dates? Because if you were only 6 weeks along, rather than 10, then a gestational sac, a yolk sac and a fetal pole would be what you would expect to see.

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Solenne · 28/12/2007 13:19

I suppose it could be possible that my dates are off but I don't see how they could be off by that much. I suppose I'm hoping against my better judgment. My head is telling me one thing but my heart is telling me not to give up just yet.

I don't want to set myself up for a fall. I rang my mw yesterday in the hope that she could give me some advice and she told me to do a hpt which I thought was strange as I assume that the hormones take a while to leave your system.

I am dreading the re scan. I'm scared that they are going to tell me that my baby is not there anymore and quite honestly what a shitty thing to happen on New Year's Eve. Not only that but I will be going to this scan alone.

Thanks for the responses and the advice.
Bex

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JingleBelgoHoHoHo · 28/12/2007 16:07

I also had my second scan alone, to confirm I had had a m/c. To be honest, I felt better having the scan alone, as dh was finding it hard. Alone, I could grieve by myself. I also had some sense of peace that it was over.

I'm not sure a pregnancy test would tell you much - you're right, it could take a few weeks for all the hormone to leave your system if you are having a m/c.

I'm hoping for you that by some miracle everything will be fine, but I think maybe you should listen to what your head is saying.Sorry

kindersurprise · 28/12/2007 16:21

Very sorry to hear what you are going through.

I had a missed m/c at 8 weeks, hardly any bleeding just a bit of spotting. My second pregnancy I had even less bleeding but still miscarried. I went on to have 2 succesful pregnancies.

I know that the waiting is the worst bit, and that it is difficult to know whether to be hopeful or to resign yourself.

Thinking of you

LOVEMYMUM · 28/12/2007 17:02

I don't have any advice, apart from just wait and see.

I haven't had a m/c but i have had spotting and that's scary enough.

Sometimes things just happen and we don't know why. Until you have your scan, just try to relax.

mumofk · 28/12/2007 17:58

hi, sorry you're going through this. The only thing i can think to add is that if you are miscarrying, until the miscarriage is complete- i.e. everything has come away, your pregnancy test will remain positive, or faintly positive. Sorry, but if you did decide to do a test again I wouldn't want it to be misleading. The waiting is so hard, but by waiting they can give you a better idea of what is happening.
All I can say is I hope things work out ok for you.
hugs
mumofk

whomovedmychocolate · 28/12/2007 21:00

How are you feeling today - Monday seems like a long time away I bet? If you want to post about it there are a load of us looking in to see how you are. I know it's horrible at the minute, most of us have been there.

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Solenne · 30/12/2007 18:07

So I have my rescan tomorrow at 9:15 and I'm absolutely terrified. I just don't know wheteher to be hopeful por to resign myself to the fact that it just isn't meant to be this time.

I really appreciate all the supportive comments here. My family don't really know what to say to me so they say nothing at all about anything.

At least tomorrow I'll know whats going on so I'll just cling to that.

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LOVEMYMUM · 30/12/2007 18:12

I don't know what to say, but i wanted to post to let you know that you are not alone. Whatever happens tomorrow, please be kind to yourself. I hope you have a happier New Year.

elkiedee · 30/12/2007 18:35

Solenne, this sounds horrible. As well as the great advice to be kind to yourself, hope you can find further support from mumsnet, there are various forums you might find helpful depending on the outcome.

Izzybel · 30/12/2007 19:00

Sorry that you are going through this . I had a mc in July 2006 at 9-10 weeks. I bled for quite a while and was in a lot of pain. I'm probably not saying anything to help here, but what I'm trying to say is that it could be possible that you are not as far as 10 weeks and hopefully it is just implantation bleed. A doctor that I saw said that it can take a while for a baby to implant. Hope you are ok tomorrow hun ((hugs)) x

kindersurprise · 30/12/2007 19:41

I will be thinking of you tomorrow and hoping for a positive result.

babylove21 · 30/12/2007 21:25

solenne no doubt tonight will drag on forever waiting for your scan tomorrow. i've not had a m/c so can not comment on your symptoms. I did once have a fair amount of blood loss for one day at about 10 weeks but there was no pain and a scan showed all looked normal.
You must have your own thoughts on what is happening, i like to think that these things happen for a positive reason, if there was a problem with the developing embryo then nature has taken away what might have been a far worse experience.Hormones play havoc with your inner feelings at the best of times. i wish i had some cheery words for you. Its a pity you don't have a friend who can go along with you, even if they wait outside while you have your scan. your Dh might find it all confusing but you really need his support right now so do talk to him and let him know how you feel.
fingers crossed for you tomorrow x

belgo · 31/12/2007 08:48

good luck for today Solenne

bluebell82 · 31/12/2007 08:52

good luck solenne- fingers anf toes crossed for you xxx

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Solenne · 07/01/2008 21:02

Well the scan was not the good news I had hoped for. I had had a mmc which was now complete and everything was back to normal.

Sorry I didn't post sooner but I haven't really felt like doing much of anything.

The good news is that the doc said there was no reason why we couldn't start trying straight away seeing as everything has resolved itself so quickly.

I will, however, not buy another clearblue anything as all thats been on telly over the last couple of weeks are adverts for pregnancy tests. Am I being irrational? Oh yes!

So now I get to concentrate on the baby making! Good times!

Thanks for all your support.
Bex

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