Unexpected pregnancy and not sure what to do

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I just found out I’m pregnant yesterday, I’m 20 years old and I have a stable job and I come from a conservative background and family. My boyfriend who I’ve been with for a year is happy. I don’t know if I want to keep it or not, I’m scared of what my parents will say. I haven’t told my parents about my boyfriend because I feel like they will have a hard time accepting him. I have a million and plus one things running through my head like, money, moving out, can I afford to have a child, is it the right decision or will I be making a mistake. My boyfriend is supportive and he’s 24 so he’s at that age where he is ready to have a child. Because it was so unexpected I’m very shocked. A part of me wants to keep it but I part of me is scared. For example if we don’t work out I don’t want to be a single mum. I want to have a baby with one person and have a life with one person and I feel confident that we will but there’s still that doubt. I wanted to post on here because I want an unbiased opinion

As somebody who was in a very similar position many years ago (the same age as you are now), unfortunately there is no right answer here, and only you can make a decision about your life and your body.

However. At 20 years old and a reasonably short relationship later, I decided to terminate. This won't be the answer for everyone but I have never regretted it. A 12 month relationship that your family don't know about, or you feel uncomfortable disclosing with be tricky going forward. It's great that he's supportive, but don't weigh to heavily on that - reality may be very different, and you're looking at the next 18 + years...

And honestly, you have a million possibilities ahead of you, and 20+ YEARS to have a baby and settle down. You must do what is best for you; it's such a hard decision but only one you can make for yourself. That's your right.