single and pregnant

[Happyy223]

Hi, I’m 5 weeks pregnant! I’m all alone i’m not with the dad and i don’t have any family and friends for support!

I have a decent job but i will obviously have to go part time which concern me due to loss of earnings

Has any one been through the same! I don’t think i could have a termination as i feel like this is my last chance to have a baby i’m turning 31 this year.

I’m terrified i’m going to miss carry due to the stress i’m under! i don’t know what to do

can any one tell me if they have been in the same situation and what happened and advice

please please help
me

If you really really want the baby just try to relax yourself for the sake of the baby x everything will be fine and think of all the joy that comes with a little baby of your own. Being couple doesnt necessary equal hapiness or support remind yourself that. About money, you can apply for benefits or just go the normal route getting maternity from your job, baby go to nursery and so on. You can do it if thats what you trully want x

yeah that’s what i’ve been telling myself but i know it’s going to be very difficult and i’m
worried what if the baby was disabled or something was wrong how would i cope. Every worse case possible is going through my end

I didnt have the same exact experience as you but I was on my own when I had my second baby at 22. It can be emotionally hard and quite isolating but if you go to local baby groups etc and mix with others, it might be helpful. You don't need a partner but a support network or people you can talk to who may be going through the same things will help. Congratulations on your pregnancy.

Why on earth would you "obviously" have to go part-time, especially in your situation? Genuinely curious here, is there no decent childcare in your area? (I'm not single but neither of us has ever considered going part-time, it just wouldn't work well in our line of work.) Of course if you actually want to go part-time then that's a different story, but it's the words "have to" rather than "want to" that I find odd!

It's absolutely not your last chance at 31.
You won't have to go part time.
Have you told the father?
He will have to pay maintenance.

I work at a hospital and my work involves shift work! So i wouldn’t be able to do nights lates or earlies. A day shift i have to leave the house at 730 and back at 6pm. 12 hours of child card x5 days a week would be more than i earn. That’s why i would have to go part time

Also i have told the father but he’s not reliable and i would rather support myself the be constantly stressed about relying on someone that continues to let me down

Dont imagine worst case scenarious x just realistically sit and look around you, surely.youre not the only one qorking in that whole hospital . Others have children and they manage. Or look for another place to work.. or stay at home..and if disabled, god forbid, you'll get support
Even if u were not single the other half would go to work too and you'll have a lot of those 'problems' you have now too
Just give yourself courage and all will fall into place.
Still in any situation children are hard work x but really dont imagine bad stuff

Hiya, try the turn2us benefit calculator. Good luck

Is the father employed or self employed?

the father is employed! yeah i’m trying to think of this baby as a little miracle that has come out of a bad situation and that it was meant to happen. Sounds silly but i’m trying my hardest to see positive in a really shity situation

I had my first child at 22 split with her dad while pregnant and he's never been in her life you will be absolutely fine x

Of course 31 is not going to be your last opportunity to have a baby! If you want to keep the baby that's a different thing altogether and you should do it if that's what you want, children are a joy.

You are definitely not the only person to have a baby on their own and having children is difficult regardless of whether you are single or not. I think it would be better to have the baby on your own than be in an unhappy / unhealthy relationship with the father and have a baby.

There is a fair bit of funding available for nursery and Pre-School once you get to two and three years old depending on income.

I had my baby by myself. Love it! Seriously considering having another. If you go in with your eyes open that it does have some real lows than you'll be fine. Real lows and unmatched highs is what I would say.

You got this mama! I dont have any advice but I am going thru the same thing im 32 weeks. You have plenty of time to figure all the practical things out, take care of yourself and your beautiful baby x

Re: your hours, if you want to stay in your current job or if those hours are necessary in your chosen career that's one thing, but especially once you're on mat leave there's nothing preventing you from looking for another job that's more compatible with childcare! (When I was 6 months along I was told not to bother coming back after mat leave - by the time my son was 2 months old I had a new job lined up which I started when he was 6 months old it worked out fine!) It's a perfectly valid reason to switch jobs too.

Thanks for all the Positive encouragement. I really appreciate it :)

My job is very specific and very stressful. I have also just started my first year of a part-time masters degree to move up to a more senior role (this is funded through my work) so I'm reluctant to move hospitals. So my plan was to go part-time finish the degree and then go back to full time once I have secured a senior position.

However, I'm not sure if my head is just in the clouds. I am very aware its going to be a lot of hard work. Im used to juggling loads of things and I've had to work extremely hard to get where I am now. I know its going to be a-lonely road a head.

If you're a nurse , there are lots of mon to Friday 9-5 jobs available.

i’m not a nurse.