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30 weeks today, feeling insecure and anxious

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LCL88 · 15/01/2022 15:29

Hello.

I'm really just looking for some advice and perhaps others stories to help me feel reassured (if what I'm going through is normal!).

I'm 30 weeks pregnant and I'm struggling with insecurities. I have had previous mental health conditions such as an Ed and bpd and I am under the peri natal care team, however I have been well for over ten years but since this pregnancy (prob mid second trimester) Iv just felt anxious and worried.
I feel unattractive to my husband due to body image issues, we aren't having sex, I think it's been almost 1 month. Even though I suggest sex (not that I'm too interested right now) he's not interested which makes me think there's something wrong with me. Is this normal to feel like this at this stage? I'm also very worried about the birth, I have no idea what to expect and it's getting closer and closer which is making me more and more anxious. Iv asked the midwife a little bit of detail but I haven't yet had a call with my
Obstitrician so is that who maybe goes through things with u? Sorry I'm clueless as first baby! I also just found out I'm anemic which means I'll have to be on iron tablets the rest of the pregnancy (yuk!). Which is probably
The reason I'm so tired and maybe my mood is a lot flatter than usual? Not sure if anemia can cause this or not?
To be honest I'm just feeling very insecure, I don't have many friends who have been through pregnancy and my parents aren't particularly supportive, last year my mother in law was very rude to me at the beginning of the pregnancy so I can't turn to her so all in all I'm just looking for some advice. Is what I'm feeling normal for most woman at this stage in pregnancy? Is the sex thing normal? Is it normal to feel unwanted by your husband at this stage? I hope this isn't too long winded but was hoping someone could help. Thank you in advance Smile

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Cakecakecheese · 15/01/2022 17:31

Are you seeing a councellor? I think you do need some support.

As for the sex thing sometimes men worry they could hurt the baby, you won't know til you ask him.

LCL88 · 15/01/2022 20:12

Thanks for the reply. I have a consultant who oversees things but it's only the past week or so Iv felt this way and I don't like to bother the peri natal mental health team. I asked him if that was what he was worried about but he said it wasn't, I don't really know what it is, he says it's not me but u know what us women are like!

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SpatulaSpoon · 17/01/2022 06:30

I'd say the sex thing is completely normal. Mine went off it massively. It's nothing to do with you.
Have you looked into spatone instead of the iron tablets?
Definitely call your perinatal team that's what they're there for x

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