Please help

[eexvie]

Hi. Sorry I'm very new to mumsnet and not really sure if I'm posting in the right place or if anyone can help.

I had been bleeding from 01.01.22 - 10.01.22. I decided to do a pregnancy test as a precaution on the 10th and came back positive. Due to my bleeding and pain I went straight to my GP. She was immediately concerned about an ectopic pregnancy and sent me to A&E. I had a blood test for HCG which came back at 96, repeated 48hrs later and was 117. I was then admitted to a ward due to pain and had a TV scan. They found nothing on the scan so I was told I have a pregnancy of unknown location and sent home to return 48hrs later for more bloods. Went today and HCG has gone down to 87. I've been told they're still not ruling out an ectopic pregnancy and have to go back for another blood test on Sunday. This is my first pregnancy and I'm absolutely terrified. I'm wondering if anyones been through anything similar and could offer some advice? Thank you.

Sorry you are going though this… not sure I can give any advice but it sounds like you are being looked after by the hospital which is good. If the hcg levels are decreasing sadly it doesn’t sound like a viable pregnancy… did you want to fall pregnant? You post makes it sounds like it was a bit of a surprise? Sorry again you are going though this it horrible waiting to find out what’s going on x

Thank you for your message and for your kind words. The pregnancy was unexpected as I have previously been told I can't conceive naturally, but it would have been a wonderful surprise under different circumstances. The doctors told me that sadly the pregnancy isn't viable. I think I'm slowly coming to terms with the news, but I'm scared of what's still to come. I just feel completely lost at the moment, I don't know what to do with myself. I feel so guilty, maybe if I had tested sooner I wouldn't be in this position and my baby would be okay. Sorry to rant x

I don’t have any experience of this, so I’m not sure I can be of much practical use, but I just wanted to say that there is absolutely nothing you could have done differently to avoid this!! I know it’s easier said than done, but please don’t blame yourself - an ectopic pregnancy isn’t viable and there’s nothing you could have done to change it.

I am so so sorry for what you’re going through. I hope you have people around yo support you through this. And please always feel free to come on here and let your thoughts and feelings out if that helps.

Hi there,

I had a pregnancy in a unknown location over 4 years ago now. Just like you had a positive pregnancy test but was light bleeding and having some pains. I went to the gp and got sent to hospital. Couldn't find baby or start of a pregnancy. My hcg bloods came back positive figures for pregnancy (sorry I cannot remember the numbers). I kept going back for bloods to check my hcg which was slow rising each time (viable pregnancies double in 48 hours). "luckily" my hcg levels started to drop as I was about to have an injection to stop the pregnancy growing and lead me to the miscarriage. I'm so sorry your going through this. It really is a awful thing and very worrying. It does sound like you are going to pass the pregnancy with your hcg dropping which I'm so sorry to say, but unfortunately with this type of pregnancy is this safest and the only outcome for yourself. If you are struggling definitely ask them for some advice on support, Sending you a massive hand hold and alot of love at this time!! ❤️

There is one thing I want you to try to remember, there is nothing.... absolutely NOTHING that you could or should have done differently.

I'm sorry you're going through this.

@Digby86 Thank you so much. It's so comforting just to have some reassurance and to not feel quite as alone. Thank you for taking the time to respond