I have been lurking on these pages for a while but after a nightmare 2 years of TTC and now an extremely poor prognosis, I have seen how supportive people are on here so wanted to share what’s going on.
I have one son who was conceived with no complications (actually by accident!) and had a very straight forward pregnancy until 34 weeks. He then stopped growing and had oligohydramnious, at 37 weeks after a scan, I was told I had nothing to worry about (after hearing the conversation between the consultant and midwife that it was concerning and I need inducing before 40weeks). Without discussion, they booked me for induction, I asked for a CS as I was now considered term and just couldn’t shake the feeling something was deathly wrong. The following day at 37 weeks 1 day, I was rushed in with an APH and placental abruption which ended with a Cat 1 EMCS. Thankfully my son survived and is now a happy and healthy 3 year old.
2 years later we decided to TTC a second child. We’ve really been through it with 4 losses from 5- 11+6 weeks. We’ve been seen at our local hospital and had all the tests they offer, I also managed to get a biopsy and NK cell testing and they have told me everything is absolutely perfect! Due to what happened with my son, I connected the dots that maybe I needed blood thinner and progesterone in pregnancy (all the tests are when HCG is 0 so not in a pregnant state). The consultant agreed that we would try.
Success, our 5th pregnancy (this is all the same partner as I know sometimes that can change things) and we make it to 12 weeks, the first time since our son! I had had early scans due to MC and everything looked fine (a few things like the couldn’t find the HB on the first scan and only make me 5.5 weeks but a week later was 7 weeks 3 days and HB could be seen, then 9 weeks they could see a bleed on scan but that resolved itself).
Then at the 12 week scan the sonographer told us there was a HB and we thought that was it, it was going to work FINALLY! She then turned the screen around and started asking us questions about screening, long story short baby has a 6.6mm NT and she thinks there may also be hydrops as there is fluid around the chest and stomach. We went from being absolutely ecstatic to crushed within about 2 minutes. We were seen by the specialist screening midwife at our hospital within 10 minutes, brilliant but also a clear sign this is so serious. She chatted through things and ultimately the prognosis is very poor and we are absolutely heartbroken! We were then referred to St Georges less than 24 hours later, again brilliant but also made us realise how serious this is! The fetal medicine specialists make the NT 5.9mm and mentioned generalised skin odema, again, very poor prognosis. We had a CVS (absolutely horrific) and are now awaiting the results!
Has anyone been on a journey similar to this that wouldn’t mind sharing? I am very aware this is likely to not end happily to us but I need to know people do get through these things and end up happy one day!
Thank you xx