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The right choice?

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Ruby95 · 12/01/2022 17:58

Hello,
I've never used this before and am desperately looking for advice or help. I am 5 weeks pregnant which was very unplanned with a partner of 5 months. He is adamant for an abortion but it doesn't feel right for me. I know im not ready to be a mum financially or in my mind, im 26 living with my parents and still love traveling and all those other things, i have always dreamed for it to be planned in a long loving relationship. But I can't help but feel connected to this baby already at 5 weeks and the urge to protect it. I know my partner would resent me for keeping the baby and I would probably end up a single mum but I just dream of this baby's face and can't help but feel I would regret an abortion and suffer deeply with my mental health. On the other hand I don't want to be a mum I'm not done living out my dreams of traveling with my partner and doing it the so called normal way of buying a house first then a dog and then a baby!! I've tried to get counseling but no help from my GP and impossible to get an appointment else where they want me to wait over 2 weeks!

Has anyone else felt so torn with the decision? How did you know you made the right choice?

Any advice would be appreciated xx

OP posts:
Moancup · 12/01/2022 18:16

Only you can answer this I’m afraid. For what it’s worth I had an abortion when I was a couple of years younger than you and found it a very easy decision - that’s how I knew it was the right choice.

For me personally I would never have a baby with a new partner or a reluctant partner, or when I was living with parents or when I was financially unstable. But those are my priorities. Thousands of women happily disagree.

However I would say that I’m currently pregnant with a planned baby and would also admit that I don’t feel ready to be a mum or give up travelling, because who does?!

It’s worth contacting BPS or Brook to see if you can get some speedy counselling.

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