3 years ttc

[89nik]

I'm on year 3 trying and still no luck. I have been to doctors but they say because im "so young" (at 32) that I don't have anything to worry about they've tested my blood levels once and they came back normal. Before my first pregnancy I had several miscarriages and had a couple after and the doctors think that because I'm able to get pregnant there's nothing wrong. I just can't stay pregnant. Given up trying frequently as it's just not family more and trying to get it to the right time it's just really annoying. Posting this as I'm on my first period of the year and I thought this was it this time as I actually had a lot of symptoms after ovulation which I normally don't get. Feeling rather down and tempted to give up trying for good.

So sorry to hear this. You need to go to your GP and push for tests and a referral to a fertility clinic. You should do some research and go in ready and not willing to take no for an answer, it's not okay to leave you like this. If you've had three miscarriages you are entitled to investigations and if you've been trying over a year without success you're entitled to investigations. I would go in armed to the GP and maybe have someone with you if you find it hard to be assertive (which is v hard with dismissive GPs). Best of luck to you.

Please keep pushing and advocating for yourself. Now is the time, there's a fine line between being 'so young' and suddenly being medically classed as 'geriatric' (at 35!) I never received any help for three miscarriages and this delayed things for me massively. I'd recommend the 'big fat negative' podcast for information and looking into the key role progesterone plays in helping embryos 'stick' x good luck

I ‘third’ pushing for a referral to a fertility clinic and tests for repeated losses. I’ve learnt first hand that GPs often know bugger all about fertility and will just fob you off if they can.

As others have said, it’s not acceptable. After three losses you should be tested for various things including blood clotting disorders (which could be causing the miscarriages) and after a year you’re entitled to proper fertility testing, which also includes a sperm analysis for your partner.

Unfortunately sometimes we really have to advocate for ourselves so definitely go back to the GP, perhaps ask to see a different one at your practice, and if they still refuse to do anything lodge a complaint as they are not following guidelines.

Good luck OP.

I don't understand why they are saying there is nothing to worry about as you are young and can get pregnant. Surely multiple miscarriages indicate there may be something that needs to be investigated.

I think you need to consult a second doctor. Perhaps ask go to refer you to know who will take you seriously and actually follow the guidelines. I'd even consider lodging a formal complaint.

I do hope all goes well for you, please don't feel your only option is to give up based on this one clearly incompetent doctor.

My GP was so useless I paid for a private consultation with a reproductive endocrinologist (£200 for 45 mins) gave him my back story and he immediately sent my GP a letter instructing them to refer me immediately to the IVF clinic. After three years of crap GP appointments it was an amazing relief to be supported. Good luck with everything x