So close to snapping at a friend

[littlemissdozy]

So, I really don't know if I should be getting this pissed off about this as I am. But it's rubbing me up the wrong way.

My friend is currently 15 weeks pregnant. Her third child, not planned which I know isn't important. But her partner to her second child and this pregnancy is a raging pot head. She wants to escape him, tells us all stories and we advise, then she's back with him but still looking to move out of their home which is took over from his mum so it's a bought home and they pay the mortgage.

She had a very strong opinion on me being double jabbed (I was before I fell pregnant) and her opinion hasn't changed on me getting my booster, which I will be getting. I'm 25 weeks pregnant. She's now became covid positive while she was in Scotland at her grandads for Christmas. Her mum was there and her mum and 2 brothers are now positive. So they've travelled from Scotland to Merseyside with covid. She's yet to have her 12 week scan. She thought doctors referred which I told her wasn't the case. She's now saying the rule is even if she has covid she can still go to the hospital for appointments which if it's true I find it very hard to believe. Surely that's not correct?

She has since had an opinion on me getting induced at 38 weeks (I've had multiple losses so I'm high risk and under consultant care and that's his plan for me) she said I'm going to be in labour for a week and in pain. And it's not what I really want to hear. I'm so close to snapping at her but I don't want to be rude. Whenever she messages me she acts like she's the only pregnant person on earth and it really grinds my gears. Today has been the cherry on the cake with her saying me getting my pram and keeping it in the house is bad fate. Not what I bloody want to hear!

She sounds toxic to me. I'd cut contact and do things the way you want to do them without being judged. I had a 'friend' like this and it took me a while to work out that the relationship was doing me more harm than good. Friendships are meant to be loving, warm and supportive. If this person doesn't fulfil those criteria then you ought to consider whether having her in your life is worth the stress.

The 12 week and 20 week scans are time critical so yes they would prob book her at the end of the day and the Sonographer where full PPE

Just cut contact, she's not bringing you anything.

She won't be able to go for a scan if she has the Covid. They would rebook her as soon after the isolation ended (happened to me, my appoitement been push back with 7 days).
Sorry you have to deal with her. Buying things not going to make bad things to happen, and after your losses she should not say anything like that! She really need to think before she talks and giving opinion (which all wrong, by the way). You have made all the right decisions, and you should be able to enjoy your pregnancy without her bringing you down. Tell her how you feel and if she doesn't understand just don't talk to her anymore. I had to cut out my friend since I became pregnant. I know is hard but if someone can't be supportive while you are going through such a life changeing experience, they not your real friend!

Sorry, but anyone that isn't fully supportive is not part of my journey.
Being high risk especially, stress causes all sorts of negative effects on our bodies and that means your pregnancy. Why take a chance? I had multiple miscarriages and let me tell you, my circle is small and tight right now. I will not allow added stress, even if they are a best friend or family.
I would try to distance myself if I were you. You need to put yourself and your baby first. Let her worry about herself.

I listen to jessie ware’s pregnancy podcast, she was positive at the time she was due her 12 week scan and she couldn’t attend and had different tests and a scan at 14 weeks so she should definitely not be attending the hospital while positive if the sonographer etc scanning her doesn’t know.

With regards to everything else, I think you need to try and distance yourself. I expect you’re already anxious given the history so I don’t think you need any extra stress. Hope you’re okay, easier said than done but try not to let her bother you.