Would you be annoyed?

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Hey, long one but bare with me so I’m 31 weeks pregnant with twins and just looking for advice on wether my pregnancy emotions are getting the better of me or I have valid reason to be annoyed!
So my daughters birthday is at the beginning of December, I don’t work so receive universal credit, the twins are with a different dad than my little girl.. so I asked my partner if he could start buying for the twins whilst I sorted out my daughters birthday and Christmas, he agreed to this and fast forward to now, he has only bought a few vests and a couple bibs and hats, so nothing really. Luckily my family and his family have bought us a lot, pram, cot mostly all the main expensive stuff. But we still have so much to buy, double everything. I’ve worked out how much we’d need to get everything and it came to around £600, I’m due in February so not a lot of time at all.
Anyways he mentioned a couple week back he was going on a day/night out drinking (this weekend) with his friends, having food, football etc. He told me he accounted £150 for this night out. I was so annoyed, how can he be spending this much money when we need so much stuff for the babies?! I would never.
So luckily I’ve been able to get a loan of £700, this will cover everything for the babies, he’s then asked me to lend him money for a haircut and to get his eyebrows done, and if I will use this money to pay a bill he’s struggled to pay and that in a couple of weeks he will use his wages from work to buy any last baby things we need. So basically I’m buying absolutely everything and he’s hardly contributed at all, God I’d love to be able to go and splash money on myself, but I have priorities, He also stated “I feel a lot less guilty about going out drinking now you’ve got that loan” oh really? I just feel a weight lifted off my shoulders as the babies will have everything they need thanks to me, but I’ll be the one paying this loan off, whilst he splashes money on going out. It’s really irritated me, I have brought up how annoyed I am a couple times but he thinks now this loan is coming it’s okay, it’s just the principle for me! If he’d of stuck to the plan and started buying things last year, we’d of been far finished by now. Sorry for the rant, would you ladies be annoyed if your partner did this?
Thankyou in advance!

Not to be horrible but from personal expirience - Start saying no from now hun or he will always do like this... some people are so reckless with money and hes one of them by the looks, he'll never give the money back so dont give it now ..you'll be again left at the end to figure it out on your own. Tell him in serious voice the money is for the children, put them in the bank, and never touch them! Ever! He will take 5 today 5 tomorrow and soon it will be gone and at the end he will say he has none. I've done this mistake and have learned from it now. He will then say but omg u only gave him 5 but he has paid the rent instead of you so youre even . If u see where I'm going with this x

Did you tell him what to buy? My husband would have had no clue what to buy for our dd before she was born. I would have just written a list and sent him off.

Whrn he came back with not enough, did you tell him?

I agree he is being unreasonable with the other spending etc, but i'm not sure your communication has been great. You've haf a child before, presuming he hasn't

He sounds irresponsible and reckless.
I would be very upset about this and he wouldn’t get a penny from the loan you took.
A loan is a very last resort, and I wouldn’t use any borrowed money to give to someone that prioritizes booze and eyebrows over paying bills.

I have to agree with somerandomgirl he's given you a lot of promises, and Dont worry babe, I'll sort it and you're now weeks from giving birth and nothing has actually transpired .

In fact you've had to borrow money to sort it out yourself and he has the cheek to ask for some of that!

Why isn't he taking the loan in his name if he's working and serious about providing? This could be a pattern in your relationship, you continually being let down and left with the consequences of his bad decisions, you having to be the "adult" in your relationship.

I'm old enough to know that you need to judge him on his actions rather than his words here.

I hope you don't feel too criticised. I genuinely hope he grows up and starts taking some responsibility, otherwise you're better off financially and emotionally on your own. You sound smart enough to not let him play you for a fool.