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Barely any sex during pregnancy

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Lilybow · 08/01/2022 20:46

Since being pregnant, me and my husband have barely had sex. Maybe once every two weeks-month, and if it's not sex then just oral.

If I'm being honest, I don't really care, as I'm tired and not feeling up for it anyway. I think it's more the fact that he's not initiating at all, hasn't since I've got pregnant and it's making me feel unattractive. He didn't initiate that much before but since pregnancy it's zero.

My husband is affectionate in other ways, we hug in bed, kiss, he gives me foot rubs/shoulder massages and he's not distant or anything. He went all out to make Christmas special this year too and he was lovely.

When I broach the subject he just tells me not to worry and nothing is wrong and that's it, doesn't say anything else. Doesn't say why he doesn't initiate and making me paranoid.

Just wondering if there is something wrong or if I should just chill out. I'm 5 months pregnant with our first.

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RedCandyApple · 08/01/2022 20:47

If you don’t care and you’re not up to it then maybe that’s why? Better that than him pestering you when you don’t want to. Some men do go off sex when their partner is pregnant.

Lilybow · 08/01/2022 20:48

I'm probably overthinking as I'm a worrier, I guess I still want to be wanted and scared he's going off me

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Tigerlily08 · 08/01/2022 21:04

I had the same worries when pregnant and after the c-section with our first. We were having less sex than you and I had a bit of a meltdown to my OH one evening crying hysterically (thank you hormones 😂) that he didn't find me attractive any more, that I was fat blah blah blah.

His response - he was waiting for me to initiate it because he didn't want to pester me when he knew I felt like shit. I had PGP and a lot of rib pains. After the c-section he didn't want to hurt me so again put no pressure on.

Honestly I think it's totally normal for us to worry but the likelihood is he is looking out for your best interest. Maybe if you want sex try initiating it? X

FirstTimeTryer92 · 08/01/2022 21:26

Hello,

Perhaps he can sense that you don't want it or just doesn't want to pester you with you being pregnant?

There are also quite a few men who find it a little strange because there's obviously a baby in there, not necessarily anything about you or how your body has changed.

Its hard because it's such a change to us and I totally get why you'd feel like it's down to you and be upset by it but maybe sit down and try and talk it out.. x

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