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Just had BFP but so worries

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ga3lmc · 07/01/2022 22:10

Hi,

Im new here tonight, I've just got my BFP. This will be my 4th pregnancy after losing my previous 2.

I am so nervous about this pregnancy. After my last loss, DH wanted to stop entirely as it was just too painful, which I understand, but I so badly want to give DS a sibling. I feel he's missed out.

I am so terrified that this pregnancy will go the same way that I don't want to tell DH just yet.

Sorry for the lengthy ramblings! Any comforting advice would be greatly appreciated. ❤️

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Red2017 · 07/01/2022 22:24

I received a BFP a few days ago after a loss .. I completely understand the worries. Just take it one day at a time .. this is all I am doing. God willing our little beans stick. I'm so sorry I can't give better advice.

Cakecakecheese · 07/01/2022 22:26

Honestly the fear during pregnancy after a miscarriage never goes away, it gets a bit easier after scans but unfortunately it's not practical to be scanned every 2 days! So you have to try to stay as calm as you can. Maybe meditation, yoga, watching Disney films (I do that one!) whatever helps.

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ga3lmc · 07/01/2022 22:54

Thank you both. It makes a difference knowing it's not just you. I'm going to hold off telling DH just now. He's working nights until Monday so don't want it weighing heavy on his mind while he's trying to sleep during the day.

I'm just grateful this forum is here so I can at least talk about it with someone.

Red2017-congratulations! Fingers toes and eyes crossed for sticky beans 🤞🏻

Cake cake cheese- looking through Disney+ right now! 😂

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Dreamer30 · 08/01/2022 05:18

I'm exactly the same. Just had my bfp after a mc in May and eptopic in June, my DD is 12 so this is also my 4th pregnancy.
It's such a worry! I told my OH 2 days after I got a faint line, just to see if it progressed and it has, but it's such a massive worry. Every little pain or twinge I feel, I think the worst. I didn't want to tell him and get his hopes up, but at the same time if something went wrong I'd like him to know?
It's a stressful time isn't it!? Stuck between excitement and fear unfortunately 😔

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ga3lmc · 08/01/2022 06:50

Congratulations! That's wonderful. 🤞🏻 for sticky beans.

It really is genuinely quite stressful. I think I'm going to just take each day as it comes. I'm going to stop turning to Dr Google too. Think it makes my worry worse. I want to wait to tell DH until my lines get dark enough that he actually believes it. Otherwise he'll just stress me out by telling me not to get my hopes up.

My DS wants this so badly. He told me he was lonely a while back and wanted a baby brother. I so badly hope this is my chance to give him that wish.

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Honeymint · 08/01/2022 07:00

My mother went through the same thing. When we were very little, my sister and I found and read an old baby diary we found.
It turns out she’d had several miscarriages before she had my younger sister and didn’t know if she could keep trying.
But then of course she did have my sister and it turned out alright enough that we were reading about it together.

I had a loss myself a few years ago and the worry is always with me now I’m pregnant again. But I try to think in the future maybe my kids will be reading their own baby diaries and that comforts me.

Keep going OP, the worry will still be there and it’s hard but you can do it.

Beth262 · 08/01/2022 07:18

Firstly congratulations on your bfp and I'm so sorry about your previous losses.

It's true the fear never goes away. I'd love to be one of those people who are oblivious to loss and can get excited and enjoy thier pregnancy! You just have to take it day by day and trust your body is on board. And as you've already said yourself, stay away from Dr Google - sends my anxiety through the roof!

Have both losses been since your DS was born?

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ga3lmc · 08/01/2022 10:32

@Beth262

Firstly congratulations on your bfp and I'm so sorry about your previous losses.

It's true the fear never goes away. I'd love to be one of those people who are oblivious to loss and can get excited and enjoy thier pregnancy! You just have to take it day by day and trust your body is on board. And as you've already said yourself, stay away from Dr Google - sends my anxiety through the roof!

Have both losses been since your DS was born?

Thank you Beth. It's going to be a rollercoaster of emotions I think. I'm of the mindset now that what will be will be. I'm just going to keep myself fit and healthy to the best of my abilities.

Both losses were after my son was born. X

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