Freaking out about birth

[chipsandfish34]

I'm 23 weeks with my second baby. With my first I had to be induced at 36 weeks due to health issues. The induction worked and labour began but failed to progress. I had several hours of pain, lots of waiting about, numerous failed interventions and eventually a EMCS.

I'm so conflicted about this next labour. On one hand I feel like I'd like to give birth naturally as the recovery period for c section was long. But the fear of the unknown is really scary and I'm very aware that there could be complications. I'm also frightened about having a second c-section as that's also not without risk and I know id be out of action for a while afterwards.

I guess I'm just wondering what others would do. Have you gone on to have a successful, straightforward VBAC? What was 'easier'? I'm going to have to make a decision in the next few months and I'm already panicking either way!

Bump

My situation wasn’t quite the same as yours as didn’t end in a csection but I was induced with my first and ended up having an extremely painful labour and had to have a forcep delivery. Recovery was long because of an episiotomy and I was nervous the second time I fell pregnant. I spoke to the midwife and she referred me to speak to a team at the hospital for a bit of a debrief about my previous delivery.

The second labour I was nervous about the horrendous pain and how it could end up the same but I spoke to my midwife and opted for an epidural early on and it was such a lovely experience compared to the first.

Sorry that’s not a lot of help at all but maybe see if there’s someone you could speak to that could give you a debrief about your previous delivery.

Thank you for replying @Wam90

I think it might be a good idea to speak to someone regarding my last birth. I don't feel like
I'm being very assertive either way at the moment as I can't make a decision. The idea of an episiotomy or tearing really scares me because I never experienced that side of it last time. But similarly a c-section recovery is so hard when you have a baby and another child to care for.