Desperate for baby no 2

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Not sure if i've posted this in the right category however I feel like I'm going insane... I have a 16 month old son who is honestly the best thing that has ever happened to me & I am already desperate for another baby. My partner wants us to wait but Its all I can think about.
When did you start planning for baby no 2?

I planned for baby 2 when baby 1 was only 9 months old and got pregnant straightaway which I wasn't expecting to happen quite so immediately. I'm glad I had them so close together though.

I wanted at least a 2 1/2-3 year gap between kids. I was going to start trying in July 2021, (I have fertility issues, but miracles do happen) but as it happens the urge to have another one hit around December 2020. Managed to hold off for a couple months, but by February 2021 I couldn't deny it and we started actively trying. DD was 16-17 months then, so we're on a similar timeline.

Fell pregnant in July and now DC2 is on their way, due late March. For a 2 1/2 year gap. Much quicker than anticipated but as I said, miracles do happen.

How big a gap does your partner want? Did you have any trouble conceiving DC1 to take into account? I know how hard it is to think about anything else when the baby rabies sets in. I hope you and your partner will come to an understanding about this.

My son is 14 months and we are considering trying for no.2 in the next couple of months. I keep going back and forth in my head if it's the right time but I've decided there never is a right time and I know we both want a second. My son is just so lovely and an easy baby, I just can't imagine it being the same second time...how negative of me!!

Our first has been a tough baby when it comes to sleep, amazing in all other areas. We weren't completely sure we wanted a second one because the idea of that one not being a good sleeper either is terrifying. Alas, I fell pregnant 8 weeks ago when my pill ran out so they'll be a 2.5 year age gap, which is our ideal. Plus, I'm getting older so the decision was taken out of my hands.

We started planning when DC1 was around 6 months old as we wanted two reasonably close together. We started trying the month after and it took nearly 8 months to actually get pregnant again which felt like a lifetime, I'm so glad I didn't wait! Currently nearly 11 weeks pregnant and my little one is nearly 15 months old!

Like the pp, dc1 was the most wonderful baby in terms of her amazing personality, but my god I was EXHAUSTED when she was a newborn.

If we'd had dc2 first, I think we'd have had a second one really quickly as he was such a chilled baby. Woke up, quick feed and nappy change, then straight back to sleep.

I think go for it when you're both ready, but you may get a baby who doesn't sleep second time round! That's one of the things that puts me off having a third tbh.

Fwiw though, you're talking about a 2 years + age gap. That's not unusual. There is 3 years between ours and it did work really well, but many people have tiny age gaps. I know three families off the top of my head with gaps of under 1 year!

We started trying when our son was 14 months! He is 18 months and I'm 21 weeks pregnant with our second.

We didn't know how long it would take and had a chemical the first cycle, a period then fell pregnant xx

I wanted a 4 year age gap, but wanted it so that i would be off on materbity as my dd started school to make the 1st year of school easier. I never wanted to be at home with 2 kids all week

My second is 2.5 weeks old and my first is 4 in February. I wanted a while with both at home but then the opportunity to spend time with my youngest alone which we will have in September when she’s in school. It’s been harder than i thought but my girl has been so helpful and is adjusting well.

Thankyou all so much for your replies as I say I feel like I'm going insane! @Dyra we conceived our son as an accident 4 months after we started dating & my partner would like to start trying once my sons 4 or 5 but I just don't want that big of an age gap as my parents had me 5 years after my sister was born and until we were significantly older she was more of a third parent than a sister and I don't want my children to have that sort of relationship.

I don’t think you’re unreasonable for wanting a small age gap but don’t let your opinion be skewed by your and your sisters age gap, I don’t think it’s normal at all that with a 5 year age gap your sister was more like a third parent. Most of my friends have roughly a 4 year age gap and it looks pretty ideal, the older child is much more independent and actually understands the concept of a sibling and on the whole are really doting, but obviously we are all different. I’m ideally aiming for the kind of age gap @CPDubs has mentioned, the thought of having another newborn or young baby with my 2 year old would fill me with utter dread but that could because we’re deep in the tantrum stage currently!

We started trying for #2 just before DD turned 1. We've been trying for about 6 months.

Am not yet contemplating a number 2 but if we did then we wouldn't be able to have them until number 1 reaches some free hours at nursery.
I don't want to be so tight for money that we can't enjoy family life.

We started trying for number 2 when DS was 10 months, I'd wanted a 2/2.5yr age gap and fully expected it to take us a long time to fall pregnant as we didn't DTD as frequently as pre children and DS took 9 months TTC. We got pregnant first time...(!) 19 months age gap between DS and DD, currently 2 and 5 months. We've just got through the really tough bit but I'm glad they are so close together as they should hopefully be great friends and I can get past the days of no sleep quicker!

My dd is nearly 16 months and we started ttc after her birthday. I'm in my tww waiting for cycle 4 to roll along.

I have been pregnant twice before and both times took 8 cycles to conceive so this must be my magic success number 😂.

We will have a 3 year gap. DS1 will get his funding so that's a massive help financially. I will also get 1:1 time with DS2 which will hopefully help with juggling things. We have no other help. Also DS1 has finished with all the "big" items.

It took us 3 years to conceive DS1 but DH was not even slightly on board with risking a small gap (I wasn't either tbh). Thankfully we didn't have issues second time. We both agreed that we'd have rather risked a longer gap than an unexpected small one.